making my focus match my highest aspirations

[manuel_moe_g]

Living my life, saying goodbye to some of my highest aspirations that have no relationship to my capabilities or my ability to control my focus or my reality of life in crisis mode.

I am gutted that i may not leave behind any intellectual accomplishment that will survive my death.

(not really gutted, that is an exaggeration)

the above has the benefit of letting my live more in the moment, don't have pointless fantasies distracting me

there are many super-cool people in my life, and i can show up for them, this is rad

wish me well on my new adventure, this new chapter of my life

[Beany Boo]

I don’t know if this is helpful but here goes.

Absolutely let go of your intellectual pursuits.

However, letting go is not automatically saying goodbye.

Some things you let go of are going to drift a short distance and then stop. You don’t have to hold them tightly. You can just pick up where you left when you’re ready.

Indeed some pursuits are actually waiting for you to let go of them before they come to life.

That’s part of the story in any case.

[oak]

Good luck!

There is no better time for you to begin your new adventure:

In addition to “there’s no time like the present”, we also have a new year, and perhaps most importantly a long-tail winding down of a once in a lifetime pandemic.

There is no better time.

[Beany Boo]

Wow, great stuff, thanks Beany (you are the resident Zen Master of the forum )

In this particular case I happen to be feeding you links from the mindful course I’m doing; links available on the web that is.

Here is another relevant link to your experience about the relationship between stress and arousal:

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-yerkes-dodson-law-2796027

[Beany Boo]

Additional:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ALjF1yb-VLw

I know you’ll take or leave these…

[manuel_moe_g]

Hi Beany,

it was very helpful to know about mindfulness that the point is not to eliminate judgement (almost impossible) but to decide not to make judgements about judgements.

Thanks, Beany

[manuel_moe_g]

had therapy session

[**] when i can shift focus/attention away from smartphone scrolling that is un-intentional and un-mindful, that is a good thing, that is a time for a little celebration, that is an opportunity to slide into being intentional and mindful

[**] being productive - (1) balanced <see below>, (2) realistic, (3) self-compassionate, (4) healthy and sustainable, (5) it is a choice, (6) it feels good, it feels fulfilling

[**] some parts of being Balanced - (1) planning being balanced is intentional, (2) Health, (3) Family and Friends, (4) Romance and Intimacy and Sex, (5) Personal Growth, (6) Fun and Recreation, (7) Physical Environment, (8) Business/Career, (9) Investments/Money, (10) Spiritual, (11) Service and Contribution, (12) Intellectual Legacy