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Re: tiny habits
We have a few days since your most recent post. Any updates?
Any particularly good or bad days?
Any particularly good or bad days?
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Re: tiny habits
The biggest thing i have noticed, in doing celebrations, is how previously i would deny myself celebrations, in fact i would berate myself.
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That’s good. We celebrate with you.
Feel free to share here about celebrations, no matter how “small”, to the extent you feel comfortable, remembering that there is no such thing as a small accomplishment.
Feel free to share here about celebrations, no matter how “small”, to the extent you feel comfortable, remembering that there is no such thing as a small accomplishment.
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Re: tiny habits
This is so huge.manuel_moe_g wrote: ↑March 28th, 2021, 5:33 pm The biggest thing i have noticed, in doing celebrations, is how previously i would deny myself celebrations, in fact i would berate myself.
Mind blown.
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Re: tiny habits
I am trying, experimenting, with the habit of urgency toward the items on my To-Do list.
With this new "Tiny Habits" way of thinking, that means I have a whole bunch of little celebrations in my future.
In the past, with my habitual way of doing things, making such a change would have the opposite implication: I would know in the back of my mind that I would have a lot of berating myself and other forms of self-hatred coming my way.
So that is an interesting change.
Also, I am going to embrace failure, make it "My Old Friend Failure", my "Signal That I Need A Course Correction", or my "Reminder That I Am Simply Human"
But especially, less twitter, less facebook, less reddit browsing, that is where the time is going to come from for my change. Everytime I recognize that I am making a different choice in the moment, I will have a little celebration.
It is easy when I am by myself, I pump my arms and throw my arms up over my head in the shape of a capital "V" for "Victory". When other people are around, I haven't really figured that out - but at least I am not berating myself.
With this new "Tiny Habits" way of thinking, that means I have a whole bunch of little celebrations in my future.
In the past, with my habitual way of doing things, making such a change would have the opposite implication: I would know in the back of my mind that I would have a lot of berating myself and other forms of self-hatred coming my way.
So that is an interesting change.
Also, I am going to embrace failure, make it "My Old Friend Failure", my "Signal That I Need A Course Correction", or my "Reminder That I Am Simply Human"
But especially, less twitter, less facebook, less reddit browsing, that is where the time is going to come from for my change. Everytime I recognize that I am making a different choice in the moment, I will have a little celebration.
It is easy when I am by myself, I pump my arms and throw my arms up over my head in the shape of a capital "V" for "Victory". When other people are around, I haven't really figured that out - but at least I am not berating myself.
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Re: tiny habits
working on my To-Do list
there is such a temptation to waste time on social-media/internet
(also such a temptation to berate myself for not working hard enough)
but I am doing my little celebrations, in private moments, by pumping my arms above my head.
my little failures tell me about my personal challenges, i can't beat myself up into a place where my personal challenges melt away
there is such a temptation to waste time on social-media/internet
(also such a temptation to berate myself for not working hard enough)
but I am doing my little celebrations, in private moments, by pumping my arms above my head.
my little failures tell me about my personal challenges, i can't beat myself up into a place where my personal challenges melt away
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Re: tiny habits
just had my therapy session
a lot of stuff about my inner child, leaving my comfort zone, tiny habits, and replacing the word "mistake" with the word "discovery"
...at the end of the session, i guide my inner child back to his peaceful place where he can rest while i concentrate on being an adult
three things i told him as we went back to his peaceful place hand in hand:
a lot of stuff about my inner child, leaving my comfort zone, tiny habits, and replacing the word "mistake" with the word "discovery"
...at the end of the session, i guide my inner child back to his peaceful place where he can rest while i concentrate on being an adult
three things i told him as we went back to his peaceful place hand in hand:
- going to have a lot of fun outside of comfort zone
- going to have a lot of <Discoveries> instead of mistakes
- going to be gentle with self-critiques, and also replace them with <Discoveries> (being gentle with self-critiques, because at their root they simply want what is best for me, but then they go overboard)
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Very good, Manuel Moe.
I especially like replacing "mistakes" with "discoveries".
If you get a chance to apply this in your daily life in the coming week, please share here.
I especially like replacing "mistakes" with "discoveries".
If you get a chance to apply this in your daily life in the coming week, please share here.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Re: tiny habits
Amazing...
“Discoveries”
What a gift...
I’m adopting the V for victory raised arms
And the butterfly hug
Except I imagine it’s a group hug
“Discoveries”
What a gift...
I’m adopting the V for victory raised arms
And the butterfly hug
Except I imagine it’s a group hug
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: tiny habits
Still progressing on "Tiny Habits" Book
Chapter 8 is "How We Change Together" which is about changing _other_ people, something I have absolutely no interest in. Maybe later when I read through this book again.
Not having as many celebrations as I expected, but that is OK, Monday through Wednesday I was working on tax stuff, really un-fun stuff that I dread a lot. When I finished on late Wednesday, I had a tiny celebration where I pumped by arms above my head a gave off a little cheer. That was the extent of my tiny celebrations.
Chapter 8 is "How We Change Together" which is about changing _other_ people, something I have absolutely no interest in. Maybe later when I read through this book again.
Not having as many celebrations as I expected, but that is OK, Monday through Wednesday I was working on tax stuff, really un-fun stuff that I dread a lot. When I finished on late Wednesday, I had a tiny celebration where I pumped by arms above my head a gave off a little cheer. That was the extent of my tiny celebrations.
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