Grief I feel right now

[manuel_moe_g]

Hi Duck1!

It is OK to recommend a book title

really the only things not allowed is obvious, obvious spam and intolerance of people's identity and experience

all the best, take care, so glad you are posting more, great to hear from you always!

[manuel_moe_g]

Grief I feel right now

My life has forced me to get real good at Acceptance. I use Acceptance for all kinds of painful and disheartening things

Love and Marriage are Tough.

[duck1]

Hi Manuel,

Acceptance is good. The book is Stop Checking Your Likes.

[manuel_moe_g]

This is not exactly grief, but something that makes me bitterly laugh at myself.

For most of my life I was convinced that I lived my life by rational principals, and that my first priority was rationality and I was successful at cultivating it.

So so so far from the truth. A complete and total mess, rationality-wise.

[manuel_moe_g]

<bought the book "How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief Paperback" by Megan Devine, will report back here>

[oak]

<bought the book "How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief Paperback" by Megan Devine, will report back here>

Nice. Let us know how it goes.

[manuel_moe_g]

In my family, it always feels like it is demanded of me that I be the bigger person and be the more capable person.

Never is an accommodation made for me, always me who has to bend and shoulder more than my part

It is nice I have tools, and techniques, and capabilities, but it is always demanded that I use them to the max

[duck1]

Hi Dear Manuel,

I really relate. Especially ever since my mom died, almost 12 years ago.
It's like you can fall back. You have to remain standing at all times.

You seem like a very caring and comforting guy, with an ability to listen.

You are not alone.

[manuel_moe_g]

Thanks Duck1 for understanding, and not letting me feel alone.

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Grief I feel right now

the same brain that makes me dream of accomplishments is the same brain that makes doing those accomplishments impossible

[Mental Fairy]

Thought of you Manuel Moe yesterday evening, had a wave of grief float through me in slow motion. Your words and your acknowledgment and understanding of grief you are exploring came back to me. I felt for a moment I was alone and then I clicked many others on this forum feel the same feelings so push through it.
I got up, shook myself off and sent a mental note to you, thank you for all your sharing. It makes us all feel acknowledged and it makes you feel accounted for and understood.

Duck1, I’m sorry to hear about your mum also. I think having all my family completely wiped out has made me feel so bloody alone. When I hear others have lost significant others it help the day go forward and not backwards.