Bookending: Scared of Thursday. (And beyond, but esp Thur)

[oak]

I am facing a difficult situation, in particular Thursday August 4.

This mess will be ongoing, and may certainly get worse after Thursday, but that is the day I am scared of.

They say we are only as sick as our secrets, so I am going to be a little healthier by getting this out.

While I choose not to, right now, disclose the situation, I can assure you it is nothing sexy or exciting, just one of the difficult situations I face as a grownup.

I don't know how things will turn out Thursday, but I will have posting here to look forward to, and as a way to keep out of my head.

btw, "bookending" is something I learned in Debtors Anonymous: a person calls/emails/texts before and after a difficult action.

I'll bookend after the situation

There! I used my words

[brownblob]

Good luck Oak

[manuel_moe_g]

Please take care, Oak. All the best

[oak]

Thanks Brownblog and Manuel Moe.

Things went real well.

Posting here was a big help!

[Imissmysun]

Hey oak!

I love that imagery by the way a big strong tree that has deep roots and a strong broad support network - LOVE IT!

So I hope that THursday went way better than expected - I hope that whatever the decision was it was grounded and centered and that it felt right afterward -

THinking of you on the day after

Keep us posted!

[rivergirl]

Welcome to the other side of your bookend, Oak. I'm glad you made it.

[oak]

Thanks Imissymysun and Rivergirl!

I am pleased to report that bookending, scripting, and your and Brownblob and Manuel Moe's encouragement helped me.

On Thursday I used my words, tried to find common ground, focused on how I can help further others' interests, and finally how they can (in complimentary fashion with their interests) further my interests.

In many ways Thursday was a bookend of closing my downward spiral that started on March 31, 2008 when I lost my job and home. (Well, the first time I lost everything; I lost everything again in 2012.)

As many of you know, I've had many difficult times since 2008, many that I blundered into. I still have plenty of problems, but I survived Thursday.

To wrap up on a happier note, I am not going on a date late next week!

Well, not officially.

We are going to "hang out". I took courage to invite her out. My brain said I would die of embarrassment if I tried. Much like Thursday, my brain lied to me! Using my words is scary, but not deadly.

Courage is important.

[rivergirl]

Good for you, Oak! I wish you all the best on your un-date.

[Imissmysun]

Oak!

You are like a poster child for recovery!!!

Seriously you have been through some really really hard stuff and here you are all successful and bringing all us slobby shuffling humans hope that we can change our lives - thank you for your inspration - Seriously!

You are a rockstar man!

[oak]

Thank you thank you, Imissmysun.

I am humbled by your kind words.