Living without BFF
Posted: November 3rd, 2013, 1:51 pm
We met my junior year in college - she was my big sister in sorority, my maid of honor (and I was hers), the godmother of my daughter - my best friend in the whole wide world since 1993.
No she's not dead. She decided to leave her marriage and met a guy online and just became too busy for me. All while my husband was deployed to Afghanistan.
She was the only person I could talk to about everything and anything. I can't talk to my husband about most things that are "emotional" - he's a "get over it" or "move on" mentality. She was the only one that AGREED with me - even if I was wrong. She was my comfort, my support, my friend. And I have been sort of lost since the relationship kind of fizzled.
It is what it is, and it's over. But I feel like I have no one to talk to... about my MIL who drives me freakin' crazy, issues with my spouse, or our kids or work, or whatever. I feel like I have no one to talk to - no ally. No one that will listen without the anger, or confusion of dealing with how I feel.
I know I can't continue to do this. I have other friends - lots of them, but no one like her. She knew it all. I resent the man she's living with. She's put her heart and soul into this new relationship. I understand that's important, but it's just done.
I feel like I'm in mourning. It's just sad, and I hate this. I'm turning 40 in two months and I feel overwhelmed in everything. Ugh... thanks for listening. If you have any suggestions of how I can release these emotions that I am carrying, that would be great. I was seeing a counselor, but I find that it takes me 20 minutes to get into it, then when I am finally releasing emotions, time is up and I am left processing it all on my drive home.
Thanks.
No she's not dead. She decided to leave her marriage and met a guy online and just became too busy for me. All while my husband was deployed to Afghanistan.
She was the only person I could talk to about everything and anything. I can't talk to my husband about most things that are "emotional" - he's a "get over it" or "move on" mentality. She was the only one that AGREED with me - even if I was wrong. She was my comfort, my support, my friend. And I have been sort of lost since the relationship kind of fizzled.
It is what it is, and it's over. But I feel like I have no one to talk to... about my MIL who drives me freakin' crazy, issues with my spouse, or our kids or work, or whatever. I feel like I have no one to talk to - no ally. No one that will listen without the anger, or confusion of dealing with how I feel.
I know I can't continue to do this. I have other friends - lots of them, but no one like her. She knew it all. I resent the man she's living with. She's put her heart and soul into this new relationship. I understand that's important, but it's just done.
I feel like I'm in mourning. It's just sad, and I hate this. I'm turning 40 in two months and I feel overwhelmed in everything. Ugh... thanks for listening. If you have any suggestions of how I can release these emotions that I am carrying, that would be great. I was seeing a counselor, but I find that it takes me 20 minutes to get into it, then when I am finally releasing emotions, time is up and I am left processing it all on my drive home.
Thanks.