YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

Thanks, that really helps that I'm not the only one who feels this way. She does have issues and she tells me that it's her not me. We have this saysing "feeling not knowing". I KNOW it's not me, she loves me and when she can we have sex. But FEELING that way is much harder. My stupid brai...

Hi, I hope you don't mind me asking such a personal thing. I really don't have anyone to talk to in my life. I find that how attractive I am (particular physically) to others is a very important factor to my self esteem. As you've probably guessed I'm really very unattractive to the vast majority of...

Hi, my self esteem is so low it's almost not there. It always comes back to my core belief that I'm worthless. I'm working hard to beat back the brain weasels but I never seem to make a dent on the core belief. Does anyone have any tips or strategies to try? My therapist says it needs to come from w...

Hi, I keep being encouraged to go to the gym. Both from well-meaning friends and from the mental health community. The thing is there are many reasons why I just can't go. Mainly I'm too ugly, gyms are full of attractive people looking great, I'll be really out of place. I have no gym clothes and wo...

Does anyone else ever get the overwhelming feeling of having had a really narrow escape? Like the got away with it this time and not to be so reckless in the future? Specifically, right now I did several really stupid things at the weekend and (so far) there's been no consequences but I can't help f...

Thanks, I'll listen to the podcast tomorrow. I'll also try to downgrade my opinion even further. Right now just doing anything even remotely worthwhile would be a win. It's made extra hard when.my girlfriend and bandages are so talented and charismatic. Makes it even more obvious how much of a loser...

Thanks, It really is amazing that 2 people from halfway across the world can be so kind to me. I hope one day I can see my worth, maybe I have got some somewhere I just find it hard to see and expect all of the rest of the world to dismiss me because I'm not successful, or an artist, poet, writer et...

Really struggling today. Not really sure why. A combination of tiredness, the dropping of weight after getting 2 potentially catastrophic days out of the way. Triggering tv I watched.... I don't know. Just can't seem to make sense of the fog soup in my brain. All I can see is my failure's, how my Da...

Thanks rivergirl. Since I first posted this I've come to a place of more clarity and I think I understand now. These Incels feel OWED something by women, and angry that they don't get what they feel they deserve. When I was younger I was frustrated and hurt because I felt I was trying my hardest and...

Thanks. My therapist told me to try and bottle up some of the good feelings and save them for later. I also made some flashcards to remind me of my good qualities (not that I always believe them). My girlfriend has suggested a few other phrases for them but I can't bring myself to write them as I do...