YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

Hello, I am begging for an objective opinion on whether my husband has an addiction. Anyone with knowledge on this, please provide your input, I would so, so appreciate it. Here on the facts: My husband works nights and I work days. He works three nights a week and is off four. On his nights off, he...

Irrationalpersist, Your post took my breath away. In the deepest, most secret place of me I can admit that my husband doesn't want to be married to me. Yet I keep pushing it down and away from me. And then you simply stated it, gathering all the facts that I provided into a logical conclusion. And m...

Thank you for the reply. I'm still wading through my feelings and options. I don't much care for any of them (feelings or options). Every feeling I have about this eventually turns to self-loathing. Sadness = self-pity = playing the victim = weakness. Anger at my husband turns into "I should ha...

Thank you for replying, ghostmouse. Since reading your reply I have done a bit of internet research and found the same type of information that you sited in your post. Shame certainly does seem more vicious than guilt.

I went to see my therapist yesterday. One thing we've been talking about is all the guilt I feel. Guilt about everything, all the time, always. If I'm not feeling guilty, I feel guilty about that (surely there's something I should feel guilty about??), and then sometimes, I feel guilty for feeling g...

Thank you for the reply. I appreciate you talking to me about this. Of course you are right. I should find a hobby and exercise. Maybe I will do that when the grief lets up a little bit. But right now the emptiness is just to great. Honestly, this feels like the final blow and I don't even want to s...

To be fair, it's not like I lost everything in the last month, it's only the final nail in the coffin that happened in the last few weeks. Last month, my husband told me he didn't want to have children. We have been married for several years, and we had always said we wanted children. I asked him se...

Thanks for the replies. As far as motherhood is concerned, I guess I don't know how I feel about my remaining options. I recognize that adoption or being a stepmother are still on the table. But imagine you had an intense craving for chocolate ice cream, so you head to the ice cream parlor. When you...

Hi, So, I'm asking the big question. I'm very interested to know what the people reading this post think. In the last month, the last piece of who I thought I was fell away. I'm wondering why I am here and looking for a new reason to continue to be here. I am 36 years old, and have done nothing of a...

Hi Delirium, Just wanted to say I am thinking of you. I relate to your pain, and I'm so sorry. I too know what it feels like to be weary in your soul and unable to see hope. I'll tell you what I'm holding on to -- the certainty that nothing stays the same, everything changes. You will not remain per...