YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

That's what I want to do, it's just easier said that done. I was very hesitant on the phone and raised the issues of having no vacation time and not wanting to travel with a newborn, and I was met with "Well, we want to do this for you" and "This is supposed to be a good thing."...

I'd like to upvote Beany's post above.

You're not going to want to fly on a plane with a baby who isn't even 6 months old. Ew. That's just asking to have a sick baby. Can you suggest to your mom that you appreciate she wants to throw a party for you but that traveling that soon isn't going to be workable, and can people send gifts via th...

Damn. Sorry to hear that, Oak.

Hey, Oak! I've not been on the forum for a couple of weeks - work this time of year for me is six days a week and my ass is dragging. Finally checking back in. How did your last task go? How are you feeling?

Hey Frank, sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now. I don't know if the people who told you about a DNA test are talking about the same thing, but my husband, my ex husband and both of my children have the MTHFR genetic mutation, which is only diagnosable with a specific blood test, it cost...

Your motivation to work through this list is generating some motivation in me to take care of some of my own self-care checklist items. You're doing great, Oak. Lots of jedi hugs as you continue.

I know you know that voice in your head comes from a place of hurt and trauma. You are NOT lazy. You are NOT selfish. Willful? Possibly, but I guess I don't consider that to be a negative trait! Your mom has chosen her path. Its OK if you don't go see her. Its OK if you do. You get to make the choic...

Wow, that's a hell of an intro, friend! You've had more than your share of major trauma to try to work through. Sounds like you are on a better path. You didn't say why you are going back to Oregon (or maybe I missed it). Anyway, I hope you find a great support group there, or a good therapist, or b...

I suppose it varies by types of therapy and by therapists themselves. Sometimes "work" is simply the act of discovering connections between past trauma and current pain/behavior that we weren't aware of until we talked it through or had a good therapist ask us the right questions. Sometime...