YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

So a little over over six years ago my wife and I had the "sex is boring" conversation. She asked me what my fantasies were and I tolf her openly and honestly. The result was her standing up and yelling at me because I didn't give her the answers she wanted. Now every time she asks this same question mentally I imidiately return to that place of cowering and fear, I feel like I am right back at that moment in time, very much a first person feeling.

I cannot seem to move past this. I need help in doing so. Any tips?

It's pretty messed up being asked to be honest and then being shamed for your honesty.

Seems like a lose-lose situation. She'll get pissed off if you're honest and probably also if she think, you're not honest.