“Caretake this moment. Immerse yourself in its particulars.”
Epictetus
Mindfulness
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Beany Boo
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Re: Mindfulness
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
I love that. Thank you.
I've always felt a bit guilty and anxious, like I shouldn't be doing x, or really should be doing something else, or missing out on something. A somewhat subliminal feeling that's really exhausting...
Epictetus has a lot of wonderful quotes I see -
https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/13852.Epictetus
From 2000 years ago. Wow.
Wouldn't it be interesting to spend an afternoon or evening with him?
SD
I've always felt a bit guilty and anxious, like I shouldn't be doing x, or really should be doing something else, or missing out on something. A somewhat subliminal feeling that's really exhausting...
Epictetus has a lot of wonderful quotes I see -
https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/13852.Epictetus
From 2000 years ago. Wow.
Wouldn't it be interesting to spend an afternoon or evening with him?
SD
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Beany Boo
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Thank you SD 
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Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Mental Fairy
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Thank you SD for the link to quotes. I particularly love the mention of reading and truely taking something from each book.
Books are training weights for the mind.
Hence when struggle comes for me I shy away from reading as I’m already mentally exhausted.
Books are training weights for the mind.
Hence when struggle comes for me I shy away from reading as I’m already mentally exhausted.
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Beany Boo
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Thanks MF
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
Sometimes I feel so compelled to people-please that I feel almost physically sick if I can’t.
I was getting into physically sick territory when I realized what was happening. The feeling I was having was a childhood feeling; overwhelming butterflies of loneliness in the stomach, chest and face.
I let the feeling be. As unsafe as it felt, the more I let it be, I was no longer getting the neediness to people-please.
It still feels ridiculously unsafe as I write this. If I stay in it though without minimizing or pretending it’s not real, I can gradually see the edges of it.
It’s been about 5 minutes now and it’s starting to subside. The people pleasing neediness hasn’t returned. I more or less feel like a grown up again.
I was getting into physically sick territory when I realized what was happening. The feeling I was having was a childhood feeling; overwhelming butterflies of loneliness in the stomach, chest and face.
I let the feeling be. As unsafe as it felt, the more I let it be, I was no longer getting the neediness to people-please.
It still feels ridiculously unsafe as I write this. If I stay in it though without minimizing or pretending it’s not real, I can gradually see the edges of it.
It’s been about 5 minutes now and it’s starting to subside. The people pleasing neediness hasn’t returned. I more or less feel like a grown up again.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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That’s insightful beany
I think that people pleasing acknowledgment is interesting. Come down to why we do this need to please others. We want to be seen as reliable, strong, able. When really we have some unrealistic bars set for ones self.
Putting your foot down from time to time is healthy.
I think that people pleasing acknowledgment is interesting. Come down to why we do this need to please others. We want to be seen as reliable, strong, able. When really we have some unrealistic bars set for ones self.
Putting your foot down from time to time is healthy.
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Thanks MF
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
Re: Mindfulness
Thank you for sharing, BeanyBoo.
I am glad you are listening to your body.
I am glad you are listening to your body.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Beany Boo
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Thank you Oak
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi