Mindfulness

[Beany Boo]

Yes. And good conversations, when they can happen, are gold.

(But almost as rare, it seems)

Very good point.

These are the key components from my learnings:

1. Turn taking is essential
2. Listen to their vocal tone
3. Let them make a point

There’s no doubt more but this represents the extent of my skills so far.

[Beany Boo]

I’m not really sure where to go today. It’s very difficult when I compulsively take steps to ensure others can’t know me. The inner measure of myself though is too quixotic to be relied upon right now.

I guess if the bowl is empty, return to Laozi:

‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’

‘He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.’

‘By letting go it all gets done.’

[Mental Fairy]

Morning beany.

Can I ask why you don’t want people to know you? What fears does this bring up for you!

[Beany Boo]

Good Morning MF,

Not to be defensive but, I didn’t say I didn’t want them to.

But thank you, I appreciate you asking.

There are definitely risks; being sucked dry or invaded by people with rigid personalities. I wouldn’t say there is fear. I can act fairly autonomously to protect myself. Boundary setting can be tiring though.

[manuel_moe_g]

man, what a wonderful world if it was in Beany's best interest to open himself up to the world

it would be a boon for the world

but in the really existing world, it is much more difficult

i have the luxury of just not caring what people think of me, but that is a privledge

take care, Beany, you are simply the best, the forum's zen master

[Beany Boo]

Thanks MM

[Beany Boo]

It’s very quiet today.

I feel like I have spent the past six months in the midst of many clamoring voices all talking differently about the same banal thing; all assuming I have the faintest interest in what they’re saying.

Today without warning, they seem to have ceased.

Quiet.

[Mental Fairy]

Hi Beany

Calm before the storm??? Quick grab a mental umbrella!!!

Hope you have a good day tomorrow.

[Beany Boo]

Thanks MF

[Beany Boo]

I found a satisfying level of focus today. I can’t remember what I did with it. The less I held onto it though the longer it took to trail out.

Do less more. Doing less, more, is paying off.

As long as I somehow match my level of kindness to the person in front of me I don’t really mind what else happens. If I become better at managing that, that’s fine too.