Mindfulness

[manuel_moe_g]

Modulation is interesting, really interesting stuff, Beany

I have to say when it came to self-help and dealing with my mind, I used to see modulation as a weakness

If I had to modulate my approach, in the past, I would beat myself up about it

Happily, now I am flexible and self-compassionate

You rock, Mister Beany Boo

[Beany Boo]

Thank you MM

[Beany Boo]

I just offered someone a hug because she was clearly about to lose her shit.

I’ve never been that kind of person. I offered first and she accepted. She just appeared to be feeling very small and fragile despite all her expertise and responsibility.

It just seemed like the right thing to do.

[Mental Fairy]

That one hug gives any nurse the energy to carry on. Gives them hope it’s all worth it. Hugs are worth more than any currency.

[Beany Boo]

Thanks MF

[rivergirl]

Hi Beany,

I'm also not a hugger, and am sometimes uncomfortable with physical affection from other adults, unless it's from a partner. However, thinking back to what helped me through some of the worst days of my life, I can remember specific hugs better than I can remember what anyone said to me. I even remember one hug from a stranger, a checker at the grocery store who saw me struggling not to cry and asked me if he could give me a hug. He no longer works at that store, but I still think of him from time to time when I shop there.

You're a very kind person, Beany!

rg

[Beany Boo]

Thank you rg

[Beany Boo]

I don’t know if this will make face-value sense;

1. I’ve started actively not taking everything personally. It just started happening. It’s a bit of a shock to experience the difference, compared to before.

2. I’ve also spontaneously stopped hating my thoughts. Again it just started happening; if I had a thought I must hate it preemptively; not anymore. Every next thought I actively switch off the auto-hate. Again a shock to have a finger-hold of that.

I don’t know what coincided with these shifts. I was aware of me being open, to something happening without anything needing to be done. It’s a relief to witness the stuck behaviors were something I was doing and am now no longer. The one outcome I’ve noticed from it at the minute is, it makes it markedly easier to listen without judgment.

[manuel_moe_g]

Wow, this is a seismic shift, not taking things personally and turning off the auto-hate

If even one of these things happened to me I would need to take a major break to let it sink in

Sending you good vibes over the Internet wires, Beany

[Beany Boo]

Thank you MM