Mindfulness

[Beany Boo]

https://self-compassion.org/tips for practice/

[manuel_moe_g]

quoting the article

it means we have to allow ourselves to be slow learners when it comes to practicing self-compassion.

i think i am getting better at self-compassion, especially having compassion for my younger selves, but it is so elusive for me, i am not entirely sure i am just faking it

[Beany Boo]

The brain re-wires over time. Time… takes time

‘What we practice grows stronger.’ - Shauna Shapiro

‘It is the empty space that makes the bowl useful.’ - Laozi

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NYqjV-KgCic

https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/SC.SE_.Well-being.pdf

https://self-compassion.org/why-we-should-stop-chasing-self-esteem-and-start-developing-self-compassion/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpuDyGgIeh0&t=754s

[Beany Boo]

i am not entirely sure i am just faking it

Self-appreciation starts out sliding off like Teflon. With practice it starts to stick like Velcro. I’m paraphrasing Rick Hanson.

This comment is not sponsored by either Teflon or Velcro.

You’re (I’m) also struggling with powerful, long-term habituation.

[Beany Boo]

https://www.kanopy.com/product/masters-mindfulness-transforming-your-mind-a

[manuel_moe_g]

i really like this one you posted, Beany

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NYqjV-KgCic Self Compassion vs. Self-Esteem Part 5 Kristin Neff

[Beany Boo]

I know right? It’s kind of a game changer.

[Beany Boo]

I’m a week out from the end of the mindfulness course.

I’m finding it particularly useful to let my imagination settle down; rather than fearfully scenarize.

I’ve also started focusing on allowing other people to be kind to me.

And when situations or people present in my mind, I bring patience to thinking about them.

[Beany Boo]

I’ve stopped trying to participate in the content of the inner dialogue. Instead I focus on softening its tone. I also introduce less certainty into it as it’s coming forth.

[Beany Boo]

I did a 45 minute meditation last night focusing on awareness of ‘all the stuff outside my control’. It was surprisingly relaxing; letting go of many, many things.

Then today it occurred to me that the place, I’m desperate to get to; I’m already there. Already arrival.

Afterwards, (now) I’m just being alive; alive and doing less. Where ‘Doing’ as trying-to-control (trying without knowing why) is not necessary.