Word.manuel_moe_g wrote: ↑November 30th, 2021, 5:55 pm
my therapist wants me to think that i am courageous - for example, she sees the willingness to post here openly as very courageous
what do you guys think?
An under appreciated comment, indeed.
There are lots of people, including many men our age, who actively choosing death, often terrible deaths, over doing exactly what you have done in this very thread, Manuel Moe.
They’d sooner die than share and be honest.
Example from my experience:
It was no fun walking into a 12 step meeting for the first time; in fact, it was humiliating!
Meanwhile, a friend from high school, who lived across the street from me a few years later, drank himself to death. It was a bad death, and sad for everyone.
I made it to the said meeting (they were lovely to me!), blundered through Debtors Anonymous, and happened to get sober two years later. At the time I was unemployable and a liar and lazy. But I lived and my friend died (and not because I was the better man).
I say all that to demonstrate that there are real consequences to keeping secrets. It kills people. It ruins relationships.
IME it is better to bumble and fumble through life, sharing our weaknesses, than to observe and experience the slow suicide of repression.
