oak wrote: ↑October 24th, 2021, 5:17 pm
OMG, f**k Dave Ramsey and his grift, targeting financially vulnerable people who don’t have money to spare. That goes double for that other one, the female version of him (forget her name atm) who scathingly shames everyone with her advice.
I also paid for his stupid “financial university” scheme, and attended maybe half the meetings before realizing that almost none of it would ever apply to me. Married or not, I have never shared a bank account with anybody, and I already habitually avoid debt as much as possible. Plus I’m not religious, so IDGAF what the bible says about money. And, envelopes? Really?? That’s the big “solution”??? How tf is that going to work when everybody uses debit cards for everything? Where’s the solution for that???
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Wow, you really nailed the other piece of the picture too.
My first day of high school (For context, when/where I grew up, high school was your last three years of school. It was a whole separate school, with a lot more students.) I remember now as if it were yesterday. Levi jeans were an absolute MUST. I somehow knew that ahead of time, and my mom had taken me shopping for school clothes (she did indulge my needs and some wants a couple times a year during my teens) so I showed up for my first day wearing my new Levi’s, a white button down safari-type shirt with black buttons, and black suede ankle boots. As I got dressed, I felt like a million bucks.
However, my fashion radar was faulty. I got the general style right, but I missed the memo about what to do with the excess length of the jeans. You see, unless you were 6 1/2 feet tall, Levi’s were always extra long, and there were very specific unspoken rules about how to deal with that feature. I had rolled/folded them up from the bottom, which was *****wrong!!!*****. I can still hear the laughter and ridicule. I looked around, and everyone else had theirs scrunched up.
From that point on, I never made a single fashion mistake.
The “ugly duckling” transformation narrative was an extremely influential part of forming my core personality from years prior to high school. I have dredged up memories of the transition from child to pre-teen, and I have concluded that in the time before self-awareness kicked in, (there are photos that support this theory) I must have looked like a neglected kid, and kids at school were vicious and cruel. But once the lightbulb went on, and I started taking care of my appearance, that changed everything. Nothing would ever be more important to me than my appearance.
So, yeah. You get it! You see me!!!