What is appropriate venting?
Posted: April 26th, 2014, 6:49 am
Hello everyone.
I just had a painful conversation with my SO where he vented to me his frustrations about a specific issue I have. His words cut me very deeply. We talked about how unfair it was for me, but he feels that is the only way for him to be able to vent. That if he spoke to a therapist or journaled it would not release his frustrations. He understand that I am trying very hard to stop that dysfunctional behavior. And i know that he has been very patient with me in dealing with my dysfunction.
I am willing to accept that if I have to. But it is so hard for me to deal with. And it feels so unfair to me.
What do you think? Is it unfair of him to vent to the person who is causing his frustration? Or am I being too sensitive and need to allow him the space to release his frustrations?
Thankyou
I just had a painful conversation with my SO where he vented to me his frustrations about a specific issue I have. His words cut me very deeply. We talked about how unfair it was for me, but he feels that is the only way for him to be able to vent. That if he spoke to a therapist or journaled it would not release his frustrations. He understand that I am trying very hard to stop that dysfunctional behavior. And i know that he has been very patient with me in dealing with my dysfunction.
I am willing to accept that if I have to. But it is so hard for me to deal with. And it feels so unfair to me.
What do you think? Is it unfair of him to vent to the person who is causing his frustration? Or am I being too sensitive and need to allow him the space to release his frustrations?
Thankyou