[A] Life is a struggle, will always be a struggle. That depresses me and makes me feel hopeless.
if I am stuck in [A], I must be immature and a bad person.
The way out:
Take the word "always" out of "life is always a struggle", actions taken now pretty much mainly affect the near-term, so "always" is probably not helpful.
Instead of considering an entire "life", just focus on the particular situation under consideration, and just in the near-term.
Instead of using the word "struggle", use the word "challenge"
So if planning a trip is building anxiety in me, and, because of building anxiety, I end up thinking "life is always a struggle", break down the planning for a trip into the single task to consider right now, like the act of packing for a trip, and then say "packing for a trip is a challenge - lets use a simple strategy, available now, for tackling that challenge"
So we went from [1] "life is always a struggle" to [2] "packing for a trip is a challenge - lets use a simple strategy, available now, for tackling that challenge"
And this is good!
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What changed here was "attitude" and "perspective". "Attitude" and "perspective" are available to be changed quickly, on demand, to great benefit.