@weary--so glad to hear your wife is different, that's so crucial that she has an investment in getting better. i totally get what you're saying about 'how long to wait' though. i think the key might be the balance of just enough good times/ lighter days to keep you remembering why you love them, plus them having the capacity to be supportive themselves when you need it. but maybe that's oversimplifying too. it's these grey areas that are so stressful.
@meh--glad you know what I mean! sadly if it were possible it'd probably be like some scary sci-fi story where we'd lose a part of ourselves while we were 'on vacation'. i'm thinking Vanilla Sky or Brave New World. i keep thinking about trying meditation, and i'm sure i have time to fit it in, but actually sitting still to do it hasn't come easily. i'd say that's the closest we'll come to a vacation!
