I need to work on my crazy filter

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veritas
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I need to work on my crazy filter

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I'm a BPD survivor. Doing pretty good, I think. You live, you learn. But, today I realized, I really need to start improving my crazy filter. Now, this story might not involve BPD at all. I just think that part of the reason I got into it this deep is because I have a little bit of a history that skews my perception. I am attracted to insane intensity. I thought I had it under wraps, but they don't say you take two steps forward and one step back for no reason, right?

In any case, this my story. You may point and laugh at me :)

There is a woman that stalked me. Like, seriously stalked me. Like going to a pub incognito, pretending to read a book at a nearby table, just to listen into a conversation amongst hobby-ists, kind of stalking. My reaction to finding out about this was, she seems so responsible for being so careful about who she goes after. How charming, and mature. Barely past hello we fuck like filthy, perverted animals, and I think, this is a nice change of pace.

What could possibly go wrong?

I find out she gets off on being treated like a hated and discarded step child. That's kind of new, but whatever. We all have our kinks. I find out that she posts pornographic pics of herself online, a lot of them, and I think to myself, these seem to be made with skill, how talented she is, and an exhibitionist streak doesn't have to mean anything. Who'd just judge her for that? That's just being free spirited.

Right?

This all happened roughly in the space of the last 72 hours. Now, I know she came across me through a website, where she read everything I wrote in the span of the last three years, and then tracked down those meets I went to, but today I realized she knows things about me I did not write about there. I checked. This leads me to believe that she must have googled phrases to find other accounts, on other topic specific sites, reading those histories, too. I was starting to think that maybe I made a mistake. Then she sends me a text about how she thought about me meeting another woman and how it made her crazy jealous, big grin emoticon.

72 hours.

She's going to lock me up and hobble me, isn't she?
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Re: I need to work on my crazy filter

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Woah. Talk about intense.

The internet is such a powerful tool to stalk people. Have you flat out asked her about all this other stuff she somehow knows? She certainly doesn't seem like she has anything to hide and you appear to be pretty understanding. Keep us updated?
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Chel

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care about many of the things you care about, although most people don't care about them.
You are not alone. " — Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
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Re: I need to work on my crazy filter

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I went with my belated gut feeling that this is not headed for happy fun time and told her that much, but no, confrontation is not my forte. "I don't have a good feeling about this", "this all happened too fast", and also some of the "I'm not in a good place right now". I'm going to pat myself on the shoulder for stepping away from the bomb before it blows up in my face, this one time, once I see that it actually won't.
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Re: I need to work on my crazy filter

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Way to go! I really didn't want to tell you what to do since I don't know you, so I'm glad you were able to step away on your own.

Two steps forward, one step back. Now it's time to more forward again and it sounds like you've got a handle on things 8-)
xoxo,
Chel

" Many people need desperately to receive this message: I feel and think much as you do,
care about many of the things you care about, although most people don't care about them.
You are not alone. " — Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
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