SAHM with Depression and ADHD

[Shoshonna]

Hello Forum,

I'm a stay at home mom (two boys, ages 3 and 1), living with Depression and ADHD. I struggle daily with the simple tasks that seem easy to most parents of small children. I've also been wondering if my husband abuses me emotionally, or if I just take things too personally. Which thread might be best for me to start a discussion about these things?

Thank you!

[Murphy]

Hi! Welcome!

I'd maybe go to one of the mental disorder specific forums, probably depression. But I'm relatively new (actually just haven't been here in years, and am back now.)

[Bradyn]

Shoshonna, I became a single parent (dad) to my kids when they were 2 & 3. This was a tremendous shock to my entire persona, & I did not handle with Grace. Yelling at my kids, who I have always loved deeply, became a daily thing. I could not control my anger & was disgustingly horrified by my behavior. Depression, anxiety, & suicidal thoughts were overwhelming. By a stroke of luck, my son's psychiatrist suggested Zoloft for me. It helped almost instantly.
I don't think I'll ever be one of those parents who gets their kids dressed up super nice everyday, or perfectly get them to swim lessons on time every time & cheering like a pro, but I am MUCH less hard on myself about my imperfections. This makes me happier which translates to being a better parent & a better presence in their lives. I'll never be perfect, but I am much improved. I hope you find some peace soon, it's very hard being a parent. Message me if I can help in any way

[Brooke]

It must be so hard to raise two babies with depression and ADHD... I don't have any children, but just taking care of the house is really, really hard and I think it's hard for people to understand that.

I don't know of your situation, but I've felt like my husband doesn't understand me and hasn't given me the treatment I've wanted for years. And I would explode out of frustration often. But I'm slowly realizing that I'M the one that is acting irrational. I'm the one with the mental disorder, not him. I can't just sit and talk about what's going on and I just explode (or it seems that way to him). It's really hard when you have mental issues and are trying to take care of every day needs. I am constantly overwhelmed at chores around the house and "normal" people just can't understand it. And the frustration builds...

But emotional abuse is not to be taken lightly, so I don't want to speak for you... If you suspect that, maybe talking to a professional might help you decipher.

As for the threads, "depression" is fine. I think it has a broader audience, so you can connect with more people.