Exhausted by my husband's depression/drinking

[teaandtoast]

This afternoon I came home after a long and trying day (and week). My husband was asleep, as he usually is in the afternoon. I decided to lay down also and take a nap. When I got up he was drunk, as he usually is in the evenings. He's either at work, traveling for work, sleeping, watching TV, or drinking vodka sodas. I feel like I can almost see him drawing any bit of light and energy I have and sucking it into a black hole when I have to be around him. I care for him, and at the same time, I don't like him. I feel anxious and depressed just being in the same room with him.

[sleeplessincali]

I'm sorry to hear that. Alcoholism is a rough disease and I'd suggest looking for an Al-Anon group in your area and connect with others whose loved ones are struggling with alcoholism.

[teaandtoast]

Thank you for your kind words. I am definitely considering attending an Al-Anon meeting. I have a difficult time saying he is an alcoholic as he is still responsible and holds down a good job. At the same time, many of the signs are there in my unprofessional opinion.

[hobojungle]

There is something called high-functioning alcoholism. Al-Anon meetings are the support you are looking for. Best wishes teaandtoast.

[sleeplessincali]

I understand I have a loved one who is very high functioning and these groups have really helped for the toll that is takes on one person dealing with it alone. I wish you you the best and you have support here.

[gata5]

Hi.
I feel you. I also don't seem to get the time to go to a meeting. My husband works a lot and I have a little one.
Some days I just want to disappear.
I see this post is very old, but teaandtoast, has anything changed? Are you feeling better?