thanks Beany Boo and Snoring Dog!
just finished very interesting therapy session
less worried about diet, because something more fundamental came up...
using WOOP and RAIN for speaking to my inner child just like i speak to my daughter when she needs help or nurturing
when I speak to my daughter I am all about: choice, helpfulness, capability
when I speak to my inner child I am all about: being mean, being depressed, being anxious, and no separation between myself and my inner child which really messes up [choice], [helpfulness], [capability]
so fully fleshed out WOOP and RAIN
right now have this incomprehensible mess because i work with the mind mapping (
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mind_map ) website named
https://www.mindmeister.com/
but i can do a quick dump right now at the end of this post
four parts of WOOP [Wish - Outcome - Obstacle - Plan] <times> four parts of RAIN [Recognize - Allow - Investigate - Nurture] could lead to SIXTEEN parts to fill in, and might need to plan for [Meanness, Depression, Anxiety]
SIXTEEN times THREE equals FORTY-EIGHT
<whew>
I am not sure my math is correct, but you get the general idea
the good news is that we can work systematically to fill in the blanks
WOOP is very much something that can work in the background of your mind once you work through the exercise even just once
so this week will be all about experimenting to see if i start talking to my inner child in the same way that I talk to my daughter when she needs help or nurturing
I will type this all up better, just wanted to get you guy's ideas first from this brain dump
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talking to my inner child just like i would talk to little my daughter
i understand the idea in session
externalizing
consciously aware of what is going on below the surface
outside of session, i seem to forget it
insight into mindsight
different voices
mean voice
"get it together, dummy"
stern
aggressive
depressed voice
"it is hopeless, so lets just manage our mood"
after a fight with my wife, i think to have fast food
anxious voice
"oh lets try harder, oh why is it so very hard"
no control
[[[ are what i speak to myself like instead of talking to my inner child like i would talk to my daughter ]]]
WOOP and RAIN
Wish
Outcome
i would really like to feel [nurtured] by talking to myself
[[[fusion]]]
grown-up-self and little-one-self are fused together, no separation
nurtured
difficult time, talk to myself
like mother and child
separation
cord connecting the two is now cut
your pain is not mine, now
grown-up is _not_ helpless, has choices, this is where the grown-up comes from when the grown-up nurtures the child
when I try to nurture my daughter, I naturally come from a place of [choice] and [helpfulness] and [capability]
choice
helpfulness
capability
Obstacle
habit
uncertainity
the different voices
mean voice
depressed voice
anxious voice
incomplete separation [fusion] could be a problem too
fusion is the enemy of:
helpfulness
capability
choice
Plan
if [habit] then:
[catch myself in the habit]
become aware of habit
Risk doing replacing it with something else
choose to connect with myself
close eyes and check in with my little self
butterfly stance of body
thumbs together, hands on chest
bring little one into focus
little self in body
check in on him to see how he is feeling
all his feelings are welcom
if [uncertain] then:
something simple, to connect
butterfly stance of body
if [unhelpful voice] then:
RAIN
mean voice
Recognize
hear the mean labels, especially
recognize it is an attack
Allow
noticing without pushing it away or judgement
Investigate
feel it in temples of head
like pressure on sides of heads
what messages come up
less than
Nurture
nurturing message to mean voice:
thank you, mean voice, but your tone and approach are provably not helpful
"i love you, you are just right"
"i will not allow anything to hurt or attack you"
depressed voice
Recognize
sadness
Allow
noticing without pushing it away or judgement
Investigate
sadness in the eyes
what messages come up
flood
could almost drown, very scary
hopeless
Nurture
nurturing message to depressed voice:
thank you, depressed voice, i will not leave you behind
not alone i am with you
"i love you, i will not leave you behind"
anxious voice
Recognize
sense of lack of control
Allow
noticing without pushing it away or judgement
Investigate
in pit of stomach
what messages come up
overwhelm
helpless
Nurture
nurturing message to anxious voice:
thank you, anxious voice, we have displayed time and time again, we got this
"i love you, we got this, *you* got this"