3-day weekend
3-day weekend
If anyone reads this, please bear with me as it's probably going to be a repetitive post. I'm also ashamed once again that I'm an adult and yet afraid of having a day, or worse a few days, off work. I told myself I would not post about this weekend, but here I am.
The small plan I had to connect online with an out of state friend this evening had to be cancelled. I don't know if I'll see my brother's family on the 4th since they haven't returned my call about getting together. I'm realizing that I have even fewer people in my life after the Covid lockdown than I did before. The past few weekends I've told myself I'll do activities on my own some days: walk at beach or park, movie, etc. but I don't follow through.
I feel lightheaded and dizzy, and I think if I try to figure things out and make any major decisions today, my mind will just spin with self-recriminations, anxiety, and grief. I'm going to try to do only the basic tasks I have to do and start fresh tomorrow. I'm just wishing that I had one person I was close enough to that I could ask them to spend a few hours with me this weekend so that I could at least temporarily feel safe and connected to the world.
rg
The small plan I had to connect online with an out of state friend this evening had to be cancelled. I don't know if I'll see my brother's family on the 4th since they haven't returned my call about getting together. I'm realizing that I have even fewer people in my life after the Covid lockdown than I did before. The past few weekends I've told myself I'll do activities on my own some days: walk at beach or park, movie, etc. but I don't follow through.
I feel lightheaded and dizzy, and I think if I try to figure things out and make any major decisions today, my mind will just spin with self-recriminations, anxiety, and grief. I'm going to try to do only the basic tasks I have to do and start fresh tomorrow. I'm just wishing that I had one person I was close enough to that I could ask them to spend a few hours with me this weekend so that I could at least temporarily feel safe and connected to the world.
rg
Re: 3-day weekend
RiverGirl, thank you for posting. I, along with the others, are glad you did. You’re hanging in there.
Feel free to post each of the three days. We’ll be interested to hear how you are doing.
Feel free to post each of the three days. We’ll be interested to hear how you are doing.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Re: 3-day weekend
This could be me because, you don’t ever mention it explicitly. But, I sense a theme that you are searching for someone to save you. I think that urge is entirely reasonable and adult. If that is true, then I just want to say I also search for people to save me, and it’s okay to do so without shame. It’s a desire that runs very deep. And if you give in to that desire you a) feel relieved and b) people show up and save you; in unexpected ways.
Or it’s just me
Or it’s just me
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‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: 3-day weekend
You can post as often as you want or need. Not trying to push you, but it might be nice to lose yourself in a movie sometime for a couple of hours.
I know I have a partner, but outside of that I have no friends and am not close to family. I do know those feelings of isolation. I hope today goes okay for you.
I know I have a partner, but outside of that I have no friends and am not close to family. I do know those feelings of isolation. I hope today goes okay for you.
I don't like people much and they don't much like me. -A Beautiful Mind
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I'm Homesick for a home I never had.--Soul Asylum "Homesick"
Re: 3-day weekend
Thank you oak, beany, & brownblob for the kind comments.
Beany, I may be looking for someone to save me (or a kind of mutual saving) because I don't feel like I've been able to save myself in the past six years. This weekend has been pretty agonizing, a mix of anxiety, grief, depression, and some derealization. I'm hearing people celebrate all around me, but it feels like maybe the world ended for me six years ago.
I'm considering trying another therapist, or possibly trying an online service called Brightside that incudes both therapy and medication, but I've lost faith that psychology and medication can help me when it seems like my main problems are grief and loneliness.
I have a photo session scheduled for July 28 for the photos I'd planned to use for online dating, but that also feels completely surreal and somehow shameful.
Thank you for listening.
rg
Beany, I may be looking for someone to save me (or a kind of mutual saving) because I don't feel like I've been able to save myself in the past six years. This weekend has been pretty agonizing, a mix of anxiety, grief, depression, and some derealization. I'm hearing people celebrate all around me, but it feels like maybe the world ended for me six years ago.
I'm considering trying another therapist, or possibly trying an online service called Brightside that incudes both therapy and medication, but I've lost faith that psychology and medication can help me when it seems like my main problems are grief and loneliness.
I have a photo session scheduled for July 28 for the photos I'd planned to use for online dating, but that also feels completely surreal and somehow shameful.
Thank you for listening.
rg
Re: 3-day weekend
Excellent: scheduling a photo session for online dating pictures is a great accomplishment. It demonstrates that you have hope.
That is something to celebrate.
That is something to celebrate.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Re: 3-day weekend
Do you have chronic pain? With your physical ailments I mean. I just ask to get a fuller picture. I’m not trying to diagnose or anything (against the rules).
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‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: 3-day weekend
That really resonated with me, since that's what I do to survive. Also what you say about finding a therapist: I believe many of us need simply a circle of friends that are on our wavelength, not therapy. Now coming out of covid restrictions and imposed isolation here in Spain, I've become pickier and have decided that if there's no "vibe" I'm better off alone. Quality before quantity.
"Most people are other people" — Oscar Wilde
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
Re: 3-day weekend
troebia,
I feel the same way about finding people who are on the same wavelength. If I'm around people I don't connect with I find myself longing to be alone. How open are things now in your part of Spain?
beany,
For some reason "ailments" made me smile. I just have one ailment really, an autoimmune disease that I've had for about 10 years. I'm not in pain as long as the immune suppressant drugs I take keep working. I do worry about the long-term drug side effects, and unintended consequences like the recent hearing loss I had when I stopped taking the medication in order to get my Covid vaccinations.
I feel the same way about finding people who are on the same wavelength. If I'm around people I don't connect with I find myself longing to be alone. How open are things now in your part of Spain?
beany,
For some reason "ailments" made me smile. I just have one ailment really, an autoimmune disease that I've had for about 10 years. I'm not in pain as long as the immune suppressant drugs I take keep working. I do worry about the long-term drug side effects, and unintended consequences like the recent hearing loss I had when I stopped taking the medication in order to get my Covid vaccinations.
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Re: 3-day weekend
I apologize if this is presumptuous but I heard this podcast episode recently and thought of you. Not the fibromyalgia per se but some of the points about immune issues and women’s health.
It might be helpful (might be nothing).
I’ll give the title rather than the link because I’m uncertain of international compatibility:
Podcast is Full Story
Episode: Fibromyalgia and treating chronic pain
It might be helpful (might be nothing).
I’ll give the title rather than the link because I’m uncertain of international compatibility:
Podcast is Full Story
Episode: Fibromyalgia and treating chronic pain
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi