I remember my great shame from my fear of asking women out on dates
it brought me great shame in high school, college, and as a young adult
but, hilariously, i now realize i was struggling so terribly back then, it was a blessing to not subject my awfulness on a young woman back then
fear of asking women out on dates
- manuel_moe_g
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fear of asking women out on dates
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Re: fear of asking women out on dates
Speaking for both of us, Manuel Moe, if I may:
We were not good men.
Or, to put the best spin on it, we were in the process of becoming better men.
Like you, I cringe at who I was. I had a girlfriend who loved me unconditionally, when I was still drinking, and I was callous to her. Her love was beautiful, and for her sake I'm glad I didn't marry her. She deserved better.
I send some forgiveness to you.
We were not good men.
Or, to put the best spin on it, we were in the process of becoming better men.
Like you, I cringe at who I was. I had a girlfriend who loved me unconditionally, when I was still drinking, and I was callous to her. Her love was beautiful, and for her sake I'm glad I didn't marry her. She deserved better.
I send some forgiveness to you.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
- Mental Fairy
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Re: fear of asking women out on dates
You’re both very loveable.
- Beany Boo
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Re: fear of asking women out on dates
Don’t wait for perfect before you start to wading in.
Wade in first and do your best to stay ready.
That’s what I tell myself in any case.
Wade in first and do your best to stay ready.
That’s what I tell myself in any case.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi