I’ve begun completing a PTSD manual; as in a handbook for processing PTSD. I was skeptical going in but I’ve read the first chapter and completed an exercise and slightly shocked myself by the sudden, albeit small improvement.
I’ve also been completing an ‘emotional intelligence’ online course this week. Again I was surprised by how substantial it turned out to be.
The shock and surprise comes after having done a few exercises I then forget about it, only to interact some time later with someone in a way that feels more connected and curious than I’m used to. Someone I’ve barely spoken to practically shared their life story unprompted!
I find myself able to say to myself, ‘that’s enough’ or ‘I want more’, rather than overreaching or employing avoidance tactics.
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Today’s cognitive fallacy to combat is the ‘fallacy of fairness’. Not everyone has the rules for what is fair that I do. I have to expect a certain amount of being crossed or rubbed the wrong way. It doesn’t mean my idea of fairness is wrong.
