possible issue with misogyny

[jazz82]

I will be honest in that I have a problem with women. It started when I was treated horribly by a woman because I had the nerve to look at someone. I was even told outright that I was ugly and had no right to look at no one. Ever since then, I began to see the hypocrisy of how women get away with shit and no one calls them out on it. What makes it worse is that simp men will be the main ones to condone their shitty behavior. Make no mistake, I do not associate this with all women.But it absolutely pisses me off that it seems that women can get away with so much shit but go on like nothing happened when they do something. It makes me angry and I fear I will lash out and these types of men and women mentioned it I don't get help about it. I find myself growing in anger more and more every fucking day and am tired of the shit I have seen and experienced. I need some advice.

[snoringdog]

Hello Jazz82,

I'm sorry you're having trouble, and it's good that you're looking for help.

It's a little hard to reply without knowing more details about the situations you're describing. Can you elaborate? Does this happen at work, or in social situations?
What kind of behaviors are you talking about?

BTW - I read your earlier posts - did you you ever figure out what the noises were?
What was up with all that?

Regards

SD

[manuel_moe_g]

Hello, jazz82. I read your post, and from it I can tell you have a legitimate grievance. It was not right for that woman to say what she did to you.

I don't know if I am in a position to help you: you might think that I am a "simp" or a "cuck" if you knew how I conducted myself with women, I don't know.

In general, I think that really-existing current society fails men. In this moment in time, a man has to be a little bit of an island to be effectively masculine and self-actualized, I think.

I got a lot of peace and effectiveness from stoic philosophy: https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life- ... 1522632735 "A Guide to the Good Life, by William B. Irvine"

Stoicism provides exercises to help reduce the effect of external things we cannot control, and to be more effective with internal things we can control.

Please post more, you don't deserve this real pain you get by being put down. Please take care, all the best.

[snoringdog]

Following on Manny's post -

Just found this summary. Ancient wisdom..


Stoicism - 10 BASIC PRINCIPLES TO GET YOU STARTED.

Your mind is in your power. You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. – Marcus Aurelius

This first principle simply puts everything this way: by controlling your mind you’re able to live a happier, more peaceful life. Be self-aware. All you have control over is your own mind. You can influence outside events more or less, but everything comes down to your opinion about what happens around you. By learning to master your thoughts, you’ll master your life and realize a power far greater than anything outside yourself.

2. Be grateful for what you have. Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours. – Marcus Aurelius

Gratitude is know to make you happy today. However, most Stoics spoke of its power ages ago. You should always be happy for what you own. Being grateful shifts your way of thinking from ‘’I wish I had more’’ , ‘’I need this’’ , ‘’I wish I was like him/her’’ to ‘’I’m glad that I have this and that’’, ‘’I now appreciate my stuff better’’ , ‘’I should never be obsessed with other’s material life’’.

3. Time is your most precious resource. ‘’Not to live as if you had endless years ahead of you. Death overshadows you. While you’re alive and able– be good.’’ –Marcus Aurelius

Our life is finite. When you’re young you don’t really listen to the old folks that say ‘’life is very short’’. Everything is evanescent around you. The world as you know it is in complete change and it seems like time flies by quickly. Remind yourself regularly that time is your most precious resource. You only have so long to live, so strive diligently to live in a way that will leave you with no regrets. Don’t waste your life with people that pull you down, don’t accept every situation you’re in and quit that job that you hate.

4. Don’t look for happiness in the material. “It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.” – Seneca

Excessive materialism is just another sign that something inside of us is missing, that we need acceptance from others, and so we try to fill it with material stuff. Happiness should come from within. Sure it’s nice when you buy a new watch/phone/car or a simple T-shirt, but remember: Every material good is temporary, it degrades slowly everyday. Don’t be obsessed with material goods.

5. Change your perspective on failure. “You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” – Epictetus

Reaction to failure matters much more than the actual cause that made you fail. For some people it’s natural to see failure as a negative. However, remember your goal: to become the best version of yourself possible. If you look at things in that way, each failure becomes a valuable opportunity for personal development, an opportunity to use as a stepping stone to almost inevitable success.

6. Reflect on your productivity. “It’s not that we have little time, but more that we waste a good deal of it.” – Seneca

Very related to number 3, on any given day, how much time do you spend towards what matters most to you? Try to spend more time with your family, on your crafts or on taking care of yourself. Successful people tend to be great at prioritizing what is most important to them, so reflect on what you spend your time doing and make the necessary changes to realize the life of your dreams.

7. Always remember WHY. ‘’At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: ‘I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being?’’ –Marcus Aurelius

I think this quote is enough to make you understand this principle.

8. Have a role model. “Associate with those who will make a better man of you. Welcome those whom you yourself can improve. The process is mutual; for men learn while they teach.” – Seneca.

It’s hard to measure your progress as a human being without anything to measure it against. Similarly, it’s bad to measure yourself against people who are not positive role models. One should compare himself with the best people but also with the least good people, this way one can exactly now where he is ranking. You need to find someone that inspires you because of their great character, who represents the qualities you find most desirable. Once you’ve found someone you can aspire to be like, you’ll have a benchmark you can consistently use to gauge your progress.

9. Choose your own path. “What difference does it make, after all, what your position in life is if you dislike it yourself?” – Seneca.

You may listen to other people’s opinions but always choose whatever you feel it’s best for you. Certain people will give you good or bad advice but they’ll never get trough your experience. At the end of the day, you are the one who matters the most. Be rational, make good choices.

10. Apply what you learn. ‘’Don’t just say you have read books. Show that through them you have learned to think better, to be a more discriminating and reflective person. Books are the training weights of the mind. They are very helpful, but it would be a bad mistake to suppose that one has made progress simply by having internalized their contents.’’ – Epictetus

It’s easy to get into reading or watching self-development videos or even reading this list to get good knowledge. Always try to have a strong correlation between gathering knowledge and actual achievement. Take notes from what you read and plan to apply your knowledge. By doing this with every material you consume, this will become a habit. Eventually you’ll soak up useful information in no time. Try to remember, for example, a few useful ideas from what I’ve written above.

(by Andrei Ţaga https://thestoics.quora.com/)