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Troebia's Diary
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troebia
- Posts: 554
- Joined: January 4th, 2021, 2:49 am
- Gender: male
- Issues: anxiety, nightmares, depression
- preferred pronoun: he
- Location: Spain
Re: Troebia's Diary
Btw I'm a big fan of David Shrigley.
"Most people are other people" — Oscar Wilde
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
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Mental Fairy
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- Gender: Female
- Issues: Recently sleep walking increased. History of anxiety depression
- preferred pronoun: She
- Location: New Zealand
Re: Troebia's Diary
Love this, thank you
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snoringdog
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- Gender: male
- Issues: anxiety, depression, automatic negative thoughts, intrusive thoughts, SAD.
- preferred pronoun: "Good Boy!"
- Location: USA
Re: Troebia's Diary
Unless too much pressure builds up, and then.... 
So, one thought that's occurred to me, maybe minor, but I've never been really practiced or comfortable with using terms like, "dear", "honey", sweetie", etc, with my wife and I think it would make a difference. Feels kinda strange now to do it though, and I don't think I heard much of that at home either. Anyone else?
Also missed a few lessons in the romance department... And tend to overthink things, and choke...
So, one thought that's occurred to me, maybe minor, but I've never been really practiced or comfortable with using terms like, "dear", "honey", sweetie", etc, with my wife and I think it would make a difference. Feels kinda strange now to do it though, and I don't think I heard much of that at home either. Anyone else?
Also missed a few lessons in the romance department... And tend to overthink things, and choke...
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manuel_moe_g
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Re: Troebia's Diary
Yeah, in general my life is about intense desire of things i just will never have...snoringdog wrote: ↑March 13th, 2024, 8:16 pm Also missed a few lessons in the romance department... And tend to overthink things, and choke...
my autism makes it so difficult with relationships and intimacy, but i crave them
my ADHD makes me dream of all kinds of accomplishments but totally incapable to put in the work to achieve anything of substance because <lazy>
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troebia
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- Issues: anxiety, nightmares, depression
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- Location: Spain
Re: Troebia's Diary
SD, imo these are just formulas and conventions. In my particular microcosmos, they'll just as often be used passive-aggressively: "Honey, have you taken out the trash?"snoringdog wrote: ↑March 13th, 2024, 8:16 pm So, one thought that's occurred to me, maybe minor, but I've never been really practiced or comfortable with using terms like, "dear", "honey", sweetie", etc, with my wife and I think it would make a difference.
"Most people are other people" — Oscar Wilde
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
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troebia
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- Issues: anxiety, nightmares, depression
- preferred pronoun: he
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Re: Troebia's Diary
MM, have you done anything similar to the micro-rebellions I suggested earlier? Like for example, buying some nice shoes without telling anyone might give you a small boost of agency. Or, simply going out to sit by yourself with a notebook in a café or in a park with the phone in airplane mode may feel almost rebellious and authentic.manuel_moe_g wrote: ↑March 14th, 2024, 4:02 am Yeah, in general my life is about intense desire of things i just will never have...
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"Most people are other people" — Oscar Wilde
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
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snoringdog
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- Issues: anxiety, depression, automatic negative thoughts, intrusive thoughts, SAD.
- preferred pronoun: "Good Boy!"
- Location: USA
Re: Troebia's Diary
SD, imo these are just formulas and conventions. In my particular microcosmos, they'll just as often be used passive-aggressively: "Honey, have you taken out the trash?"
Conventions, yes, but used correctly, they can take the edges off. I've been accused of being too sensitive, and of misreading cues and misunderstanding intents. And we both can be a little prickly at times...
Conventions, yes, but used correctly, they can take the edges off. I've been accused of being too sensitive, and of misreading cues and misunderstanding intents. And we both can be a little prickly at times...
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Mental Fairy
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- Issues: Recently sleep walking increased. History of anxiety depression
- preferred pronoun: She
- Location: New Zealand
Re: Troebia's Diary
Will chime in soon, working
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troebia
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- Issues: anxiety, nightmares, depression
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Re: Troebia's Diary
Situation update and strange realisation
Just had lunch alone in the house, at the dinner table and I suddenly realised there were no eyes on me. MIL is going to spend a couple of weeks in her own apartment in the city during the yearly festivities. This morning there were of course extra amounts of moans, groans and sighs (supposedly fishing for pity) as my wife packed up MIL's stuff. Now, it's as if a frequency jammer has been switched off and it's easier to form coherent thoughts again without straining. OMFG.
Just had lunch alone in the house, at the dinner table and I suddenly realised there were no eyes on me. MIL is going to spend a couple of weeks in her own apartment in the city during the yearly festivities. This morning there were of course extra amounts of moans, groans and sighs (supposedly fishing for pity) as my wife packed up MIL's stuff. Now, it's as if a frequency jammer has been switched off and it's easier to form coherent thoughts again without straining. OMFG.
"Most people are other people" — Oscar Wilde
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
"Those who dream of the possible will suffer the greatest disillusion" — Fernando Pessoa
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snoringdog
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- Issues: anxiety, depression, automatic negative thoughts, intrusive thoughts, SAD.
- preferred pronoun: "Good Boy!"
- Location: USA
Re: Troebia's Diary
I, for one, rejoice with you! 