YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin
Postings on this site are NOT by mental health professionals, rather the opinions & experiences of a community of regular people. If you feel like you are going to hurt yourself or others PLEASE call Suicide Prevention at 1-800-273-8255
Yes, I’ve recently discovered that slowing down takes training. Especially when you’re sat in the current of contemporary conditions. I can’t really will myself to slow down. But with meditation, slower walking, timing my thoughts, learning to stop, knowing when I’ve had enough, practicing to say no, committing to do less in the day, I’ve gradually shifted and learnt the steps.
Going slow is the same as going fast or getting strong. I need to train to get there.
Fear of being disliked feels like life and death. But its because emotional pandering, is actually dangerous; you can lose yourself. You can mislay what is vital to you, whilst trying to get others just to turn your way.
Safety thought:
Others liking me, is not a precondition of them meeting my needs. When I am not constantly pandering, I can breathe comfortably, without interruption.
Sometimes I’m going to take turns with someone in a conversation. Sometimes I need the attention of other people for a few moments. Sometimes someone will turn towards me and listen to me and ask me questions.
Beany Boo wrote: ↑August 1st, 2021, 2:19 am
Sometimes I need the attention of other people for a few moments.
Go for it. If you get a chance to try the above this week, let us know how it goes.
In the meantime, know that you have our full attention here.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim