YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

Hey Ocadhla, Do you ever get this? When a girl approaches you, and she's attractive, do you ever get this anxiety that's, like, "Oh, shit. This is now mine to lose. I better not fuck up." I do, and I get anxious over trying to make sure I don't do the wrong thing. And I transmit that anxie...

Hey 50msns... I am in that boat, too. And I, too, have found it better to just accept the fact that people do not pursue me or express interest in having me in their life, instead of resent it, analyze it, or try to enhance my appeal. I have found that trying doesn't work, and listening to the peopl...

Yes, please do let us know how you're comin' along. I know I used to primarily seek validation from women, and a lack of validation I would interpret as invalidation, when in reality, it was neither validating or invalidating, it was just neutral. They had something else going on. So, I would then f...

I agree that I am probably neutral to people whom I'm trying to befriend- their lack of care is not mean-spirited, they just have other things filling their time and thoughts. This is SO healthy!! As far as what I said earlier about accepting my role in life, I would say it is less about giving up ...

I do this too. But, Paul had on a guest on an early show, and I think it might have been Jimmy Dore but I could be wrong... he was going through a period of depression when his doorknob to his house weirdly happened to break. He immersed himself in indecision in trying to replace the doorknob and sp...

This is so beautifully said: You try not to engage with your filter, the thing that judges and labels events, and just experience. There are many ways your filter can get damaged, twisted, warped, or bent, such as early trauma. Or, just growing up in an environment of extreme thinking, or excessive ...

I think I get it... So, being in an environment where there is a false world view, say, everyone believes something you know isn't right, could create depression by creating a contradiction the brain keeps trying to reconcile but can't? I had an experience exactly like this, and my mind became consu...

Hi, Kayleigh. I got bullied, too, for years and years. And it caused me a lot of trouble in school because it kept me from being able to concentrate on schoolwork because I was too busy visualizing the next time a bunch of kids would come over to pound on me, and what I would do. When it might happe...

Becomingkind... Very true, we often can have specific expectations of what signals mean "give a shit" and if we dont get them we feel invalidated. I know i've done this, and i'm trying to move more towards deeming social cues "neutral" versus good or bad because people may not me...

Algernon your post is most meaty and insightful. I absolutely agree with everything you said and your citing of neutrality particularly resonated with me. Because we live in an unprecedented age of information flying around, i think its too rigid to judge people on single oversights. We humans just ...