YOU ARE NOT ALONE - A companion online community discussion board for The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast with Paul Gilmartin

The recent episode with Kira clicked a light on for my relationship issues, specifically around her really not wanting to have sex with men, but feeling pressured/expected to. I'm hoping a female who has had low-libido problems can chime in here. My question: Is there a difference between having lit...

We found an amazing book that describes the dynamic of a desire gap in marriage. It is "The Sex Starved Marriage" by Michele Weiner Davis, a marriage counselor. It so perfectly reflects each of our positions in this situation. The High Desire partner get's so much more from sex than just p...

Wait a minute, Paul- Don't you think it's a little premature to label her with an addiction and send her on a 12 step program?! Please read Fredbo & Fifthsonata's comments. For people who have a high sex drive, it's about much more than physical pleasure. Maybe she was anxious and depressed for ...

Thanks to everyone here for your digital support. The past week or so has been incredibly difficult emotionally, but I have come out of it with amazing clarity that has helped me make a new start. First, thanks for the Dan Savage recommendation. After about 5 minutes of reading archived stuff on the...

Thanks Almost, I know Dan Savage, he is good and really funny. I used to read his column (Savage Love?) in the Weeekly or the Guardian I think. I'm relieved to know that it's not just that I'm not attractive to her or that I don't do things the right way. However, I'm worried about having this conve...

AlmostWell, Thank you so much for your reply- It is such a relief to read your words- I can't tell you enough how much it helps. I will certainly ask the therapist about a sex-positive orientation tomorrow at our session. The therapist has asked me to write about the emotion of rejection and what it...

Thanks for responding, oak. Yes, it is my wife that seems to have this condition. I am happy with my sex drive. I can masturbate openly with her in bed and it's not an issue. And yes, I would prefer more often. But it's not really just sex that I want. I want to be wanted by her. I want to make out ...

I'm 45, male, married for 14 years with two great kids. We have a really good/great relationship. My wife is very attractive, successful, fit and fun. We have similar interests and do lots of things together. We are affectionate out of bed. Seems like an ideal situation, right? Every few months I wi...