Renouncing Self-Judgement to prevent Procrastination, and Managing ADHD need for Dopamine throughout the Day

[manuel_moe_g]

Thank you Mental Fairy,

I wish I lived in the world of things changing quickly, but with my head, as it is, I live in the world of things changing slowly and needing a lot of self-compassion and giving myself grace

I will put a stuffed animal to hug when I complete even a little thing, and I will tell myself “Avoidance is not my friend, and I love failure!”

[manuel_moe_g]

[CARD#7] Renouncing Harsh Self-Judgement to lessen Procrastination, and Managing ADHD need for Dopamine throughout the Day
(1) Prioritize Self-Value Over Harsh Self-Judgment
"I am inherently good & valuable just as I am. My self-worth isn't dependent on being extraordinary. I choose self-compassion over self-criticism. Kindness towards myself fuels my productivity. I give my daughter unconditional love, and I can do the same for myself! I am excited about the work toward my success, avoidance is not my friend, and I love learning from failure."
(2) Be Mindful of ADHD Needs for Dopamine, Resist Falling into Dopamine Trap
"I acknowledge my ADHD and its need for dopamine. I find healthy ways to feed it: 'stimming,' novelty, drinking water, cold water on face, small rewards, and meaningful celebrations of <all> small wins and accomplishments, like moving my body in a little dance, or hugging a stuffed animal. These empower my focus and free me from aimless smartphone scrolling."

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made more changes, a big one is "avoidance is not my friend" and "I love learning from failure". Also have example of <little reward> in "hugging a stuffed animal". For today picked a stuffed Ostridge from the day my wife, daughter, and my father stopped by a ostridge farm on the way to the town of Solvang, which looks like a little Dutch village. I love his <huge> feet!

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[Mental Fairy]

OMG he is sooooooo cute. Oh MM you just made me smile the biggest smile in days. Oh thank you for this post. Gosh your incredible

[manuel_moe_g]

it was so strange hugging that Ostridge stuffed animal, i haven't hugged a stuffed animal for many many decades!

my therapist said it was a good way to reach the young inner child inside of me

[Mental Fairy]

Since SD and I had a conversation about inner child acknowledgment I put my childhood teddy bear in the back of my drivers seat in my car! So when I collect passengers (hardly ever) they would see this teddy bear looking back at them.

I do have an oversized giraffe teddy a patient gave me when I had my boob off! It is adorable and will have a look for it when I get home, you have inspired me.

[manuel_moe_g]

Yeah, Mental Fairy, there is something that can take you way back, hugging a stuffed animal.

Nervous i am going to crush it in my arms and torso (6 foot 1 inch tall, 280 lbs), but that isn't quite how these stuffed animals work, ha!

[manuel_moe_g]

[CARD#7] Renouncing Harsh Self-Judgement to lessen Procrastination, and Managing ADHD need for Dopamine throughout the Day

(1) Prioritize Self-Value Over Harsh Self-Judgment
"I am inherently good & valuable just as I am. My self-worth isn't dependent on being extraordinary. I choose self-compassion over self-criticism. Kindness towards myself fuels my productivity. I give my daughter unconditional love and support, and I can do the same for myself! I am excited about the work toward my success, avoidance is not my friend, and I love learning from failure."
(2) Be Mindful of ADHD Needs for Dopamine, Resist Falling into Dopamine Trap
"I acknowledge my ADHD and its need for dopamine. I find healthy ways to feed it: 'stimming,' novelty, drinking water, cold water on face, short walk, and meaningful celebrations of <all> small wins and accomplishments, like moving my body in a little dance, or hugging a stuffed animal. These empower my focus and free me from aimless smartphone scrolling."

made some minor changes, like using a "short walk" to supply my mind with dopamine - the fresh air, seeing the result all around me of my forward motion, the increased blood flow

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[Beany Boo]

And talking back.

It’s possible the negative voice doesn’t really know you and doesn’t know what it is talking about.

Talking back at it, it doubts itself.

[troebia]

It’s possible the negative voice doesn’t really know you and doesn’t know what it is talking about.

I agree somehow, in the sense that we as animate and reasoning objects (as opposed to rocks and fish) are constantly having this strange illusion of being rational beings.

[Mental Fairy]

That’s spot on, talking back to it deflates it somehow. Takes the power of negative energy out of it.

MM I hope you don’t mind but I took a screenshot of your ostrich and made it my background on phone. It honestly makes me smile on the inside and out when I pick up my phone.
I admire the work you’re doing on yourself. You’re really going inward.