Loneliness and attachment to my mother

Post by **manuel_moe_g** » February 8th, 2023, 5:01 pm

I feel lonely, I want to connect to my mother, but the closer one gets to my mother, the worse she treats you and the my shrill and entitled she becomes over your energy and attention.

oak · Post by **oak** » February 8th, 2023, 8:05 pm

Thank you for sharing, Manuel Moe.

snoringdog · Post by **snoringdog** » February 9th, 2023, 7:03 am

That's very sad Manny.

Any ideas about what makes her the way she is?

Post by **manuel_moe_g** » February 9th, 2023, 8:43 am

snoringdog wrote: ↑February 9th, 2023, 7:03 am Any ideas about what makes her the way she is?

My mom has big struggles with anxiety and depression, and definitely has much more anxiety than i do

i just am disappointed that she has been alive so long and has so little insight into her negative qualities, that she gets so defensive, and that she doesn't do the basics of taking care of herself mentally.

Beany Boo · Post by **Beany Boo** » February 10th, 2023, 1:31 pm

This is not weakness.

This experience between mother and son would be very difficult for anyone to bear who found themselves in a similar position.

There’s a lot going on. It’s painful to pay attention to it.

Mental Fairy · Post by **Mental Fairy** » February 10th, 2023, 3:44 pm

Hi MM

Did mum have a turbulent upbringing?

Post by **manuel_moe_g** » February 10th, 2023, 5:40 pm

Mental Fairy wrote: ↑February 10th, 2023, 3:44 pm Did mum have a turbulent upbringing?

Yes, she grew up poor in Germany after the war in a loveless house. She was a tomboy, but puberty led to uncertainty and pain and depression. She left Germany to escape a controlling mother and older sister.

snoringdog · Post by **snoringdog** » February 10th, 2023, 7:17 pm

Yes, she grew up poor in Germany after the war in a loveless house. She was a tomboy, but puberty led to uncertainty and pain and depression. She left Germany to escape a controlling mother and older sister.

That sounds very bleak.

So what are the dynamics of your interactions, if you don't mine me asking?

Mental Fairy · Post by **Mental Fairy** » February 10th, 2023, 7:44 pm

Your mum will have a lot of mental walls up for self protection. Does she have any hoarding traits and difficulties letting go of things? Your connection your crave may be unreachable due to her past experiences? She herself would no doubt crave it deeply but may not know how to show this??

Mental Fairy · Post by **Mental Fairy** » February 10th, 2023, 7:46 pm

Actually, now thinking about it can I ask if you could write down what would your ideal dream be for you to experience with mum? A dinner or walk? A location to visit and conversation you would love to have.

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