Enmeshed parents

[sdjustinr]

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[sdjustinr]

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[manuel_moe_g]

You have the right to make mistakes and hurt other people. If you don't have that right, then you are completely subservient to other people, if they manage to make not doing what they want become hurting their feelings.

My advice is before every interaction with your mom, give yourself permission to make mistakes and to hurt her, because you don't have the benefit of being inside her head and knowing her reaction to anything you might do. Humans possess resiliency, to overcome mistakes from others without them becoming fatal. Someone with zero resiliency may be too toxic to be around because all your psychic energy will be consumed trying to manage their responses, and even then you will make mistakes and be inadequate because you don't have perfect knowledge of their responses because you are not a mind-reader and you cannot perfect predict the future.

Please take care, all the best, please be kind to yourself!