strip club addict

[Elmer68]

I am 45 years old, straight, never married, no kids.
I love getting lap dances from strippers. I love it too much, as I have spent thousands of dollars on it and wiped out my savings on it. I have not dated a woman for over a decade. I like the feeling of being a sleazy, invisible dirty old man.
I do need to see a therapist and will so next month, when I have money. I just need to stay out of strip clubs

-elmer

[manuel_moe_g]

Hello elmer68, welcome to the forum!

You are not a bad person. You are a person who is contemplating a change, to effect a change in your life.

Below are links to low/no cost therapy. Therapy is your best bet of effect the life-change you desire.

Please use this forum as a resource for your very best future. All the best to you, cheers!

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Low/No Cost Mental Health Resources

United States website to find sliding scale "low/no" cost mental health services. Also information on medication assistance: NeedyMeds - Free/Low-Cost/Sliding-Scale Clinics U.S. Database

Discussion of low and no cost therapy resources, even in usually under-served areas: Maria Bamford podcast, Episode 95, Jan 04 2013 at minute 6:00.

If you think you might need this resource, then you definitely need this resource - please check out the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network - RAINN at RAINN.org

Google searches for low and no cost therapy resources, even in usually under-served areas: your town or county + one of these terms:

• low cost counselling service
• sliding scale counselling service
• CMHC
• community mental health
• community service board office

From this MentalPod board - some places to get help for people with limited resources:

• Help for little or no money
• Best Insurance Companies/Types for Mental Health Care
• Links for More Mental Health Info/Suicide Hotlines

Here is a post and thread on Reddit about getting medication at low or no cost: Community Assistance Program, accepted at Target pharmacy and many other pharmacies

Cheers to you, for scrolling all the way down to the bottom of this copypasta!

[Elmer68]

thank you manuel
sometimes I get the feeling that people think that all men who frequent strip clubs just sleazy creeps and nothing more, but there is more to the story.

[weary]

Hi Elmer. I can relate to your situation. I hope that you can try to not judge yourself too harshly, even though you may feel (and may be correct) that other people are judging you. Clearly there is something that you need that in some way, you have found that you can get by going to strip clubs and getting lap dances. I have been there myself. I can completely relate to the idea of being invisible and anonymous - that's why I started going. It turned into something else for me. I won't fill up your thread with the details, but you can read about it on this thread and elsewhere on this board: http://www.mentalpod.com/forum/viewtopi ... =43&t=8083

You have recognized that it is a pattern of behavior that in the long run is not working for you - it sounds like is not really getting you what you want and need and it is wreaking havoc with you financially. You deserve a lot of credit for coming to this realization and seeking help. I hope you can follow through with therapy and realize that many other people have been in your situation. Sexuality is powerful and the sex industry, whether porn or strip clubs or other things, are not inherently good or bad (in my opinion) but are very dangerous and can lead to patterns of destructive behavior. I know that going to strip clubs does not mean that you are a sleazy creep or say anything else bad about who you are, and I hope that therapy becomes a tool for you to find out what you really want and need and how to get there.

[meh]

Can I just say - from my point of view there is absolutely nothing wrong with going to a strip club and getting a lap dance. Even if you are in a relationship.

The only no-no in my book is if the other half objects.