a better response

[oak]

Hey! I am glad you are making some progress and movement with this.

Let me offer you this, which I learned in Debtors Anonymous, and have posted many times in the forum: scripting and bookending.

Scripting: writing out, often as bullet points, two or three important things one wants or needs to say to another, about something important.

Bookending: contacting a friend in recovery (or, generally, healing) before and after having a difficult situation.

In your case, which you have instinctively done, you might use an "I feel... when you... because..." statement, then let us (or another friend) know before and after the difficult conversation.

Something to consider! hth

[Beany Boo]

That’s sort of more than I’ve said to anyone about that so, thank you for taking something from it.