First steps

[dGirl1986]

I went to see a doctor this morning about my eating. It was useless and helpful at the same time. She agrees i suffer from both addiction and binge eating disorder but there isn’t a lot they can really do as they are still trying to understand it but we talked about what works for others. She agrees counselling will help with the binge sessions and trying to prevent them and has given me a referral to go to a dietician as well.

[333]

Hi i just wanted to share some insight as to "why" people choose to do such extreme things to themselves. When we don't feel in control of the most basic things in our lives. Choices that should be our "right". We will then control whatever it is we can.(It's a primal sign of survival). But to get to the heart of the issue, and solve this need to control. Would be to find out... what are the things in your life that have been missing... things that are your rights as a human being. So you can lead a balanced fulfilled life. Example: being shown affection and giving affection, approval, praise, personal time to nurture yourself, by relaxing, getting enough sleep, healthy friendships, creative expression, (through writing, painting, dance). Without these things i've mentioned. We will resort to drastic measures, it is our subconscious cry for help. We are not thriving. So please take a look at these things. Then you can look at it, and talk to a professional person of your choice that understands. Someone who can direct you. To start receiving the things in your life you've been missing. You're doing the right thing. By getting back your health. Following a proper diet, that will stabilize your mental thinking and physical strength. I just joined this site. So i really hope to stay in touch. My reasons for joining this sight is to make new friends ( i lost 2 children 1 when i was 23 yrs. old he was 5 1/2 months old...and my 32 yr. old son when i was 51 yrs. old) I had a nervous breakdown and had to be put on medication to have the will to live. Eight yrs. later i'm off the anti-depressants and sleeping pill. I still take an anxiety medication that really helps me through alot! I have great Doctors i trust. I would've been able to get well without the help of both. I still have 3 grown kids, married with children, i love with everything in me. I'm rebuilding my life one day at a time. It's slow but sure. You have me in your corner wishing you every good thing in this world! You're so worth every effort it takes to get your life back. You're NOT ALONE : )

[born-to-damnation]

333's heart is in the right place, but unfortunately this is something that can't be controlled my distraction. I agree with 333 that dGirl1986 should do all of these things, but I truly believe that the binge eating won't stop without some consoling.

I'm in a very small minority of bulimics whom are male. Even when my life is going great, I still feel the need to binge and purge. Even the ganging feeling calms me down. It wasn't until I sat with a Therapist that I started to work things out. Please understand that you aren't the only one going though this. If you need help, this is what we're here for. Please find a Clinical Psychologist to talk to. Things will be better =).

[db06]

Hi, I'm new to the forum and wanted to comment on this specific topic. I also have been diagnosed with a binge eating disorder and food addiction, and I just wanted to offer my support and experience. From my experience, seeing a counselor can help a lot- I got set up with a therapist and even just admitting to having the problem and describing what happens can really help. I had a real eating problem, I would sit and eat thousands of calories when I was alone or stressed or bored, and it would almost be as if I blacked out during this time. The compulsion to eat was so great and intense, I couldn't control it anymore- food was my addiction. All addictions are difficult to deal with of course, but food addictions are particularly difficult because you can't give up eating completely- there is a constant reminder of your addiciton- and there are extremely strong social pressures to eat a certain way that people don't always think of, America is a buffet culture people! I finally recognized this problem and now see someone regularly and I can't tell you how much better I feel. I also have heard that overeaters anonymous can be good, I haven't been to a meeting myself, but plan to per recommendation of my therapist. I feel for everyone who has eating troubles and addictions and I can tell you, it can get better.