You guys are helping me big time!
- snoringdog
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
Hello Manny,
Following the analogy -
Real cheerleading (at a game) looks like it takes a lot of effort, and of course it's exhausting!
You can also try a quieter "Good Job, Manny....Atta boy" while you catch your breath, or during halftime.
Following the analogy -
Real cheerleading (at a game) looks like it takes a lot of effort, and of course it's exhausting!
You can also try a quieter "Good Job, Manny....Atta boy" while you catch your breath, or during halftime.
- manuel_moe_g
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
Thanks SnoringDog, that is a good thing to keep in mind.
It would be an honor to be the inner cheerleader in the minds of my friends here, I will try to offer myself the same courtesy.
But won't use it as another opportunity to beat myself up.
It would be an honor to be the inner cheerleader in the minds of my friends here, I will try to offer myself the same courtesy.
But won't use it as another opportunity to beat myself up.
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- Beany Boo
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
You don’t need to be my inner-cheerleader MM. I appreciate it but I don’t need that degree of support. It also feels like way more work than is required.
I am more that happy for you to be my outer-cheerleader and only then when you feel like it and have the energy.
And even then, not a cheerleader. If you are just a supportive presence with kindly intent; that is sufficient for my needs.
Ultimately, a kindly presence who can manage for themself and who stands by to support me managing for myself. And only when they can. That’s my preference.
I am more that happy for you to be my outer-cheerleader and only then when you feel like it and have the energy.
And even then, not a cheerleader. If you are just a supportive presence with kindly intent; that is sufficient for my needs.
Ultimately, a kindly presence who can manage for themself and who stands by to support me managing for myself. And only when they can. That’s my preference.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
- manuel_moe_g
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
Hi Beany!
Maybe i am speaking wishfully, maybe i wish there was a cheerleader in my head to overcome the negative thoughts in my head.
I am doing alright. My friends here on this board, they don't deserve to suffer, it hurts me.
Treatment resistant depression is a mind-fuck.
Maybe i am speaking wishfully, maybe i wish there was a cheerleader in my head to overcome the negative thoughts in my head.
I am doing alright. My friends here on this board, they don't deserve to suffer, it hurts me.
Treatment resistant depression is a mind-fuck.
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- Beany Boo
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
I suspected that it hurts you.
It’s okay to let them take care of themselves; as scary as that might seem.
It’s enough that you show up for them. More than enough.
It’s okay to let them take care of themselves; as scary as that might seem.
It’s enough that you show up for them. More than enough.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
Mini-brain-dump...
No bolt from the blue is going to save me
my best life is just this current life with a few of the rough edges rounded off, with a great deal of effort put into rounding off those few rough edges, because the last 5% of the result takes 80% of the effort...
my legacy is probably going to be me not being "great" but just showing up spiritually for my friends and family, and that is good
my goals are all about effort, not a bolt from the blue or a ground-shaking insight
i am like Dorothy and the Red Slippers, what i need i had all along
head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself
No bolt from the blue is going to save me
my best life is just this current life with a few of the rough edges rounded off, with a great deal of effort put into rounding off those few rough edges, because the last 5% of the result takes 80% of the effort...
my legacy is probably going to be me not being "great" but just showing up spiritually for my friends and family, and that is good
my goals are all about effort, not a bolt from the blue or a ground-shaking insight
i am like Dorothy and the Red Slippers, what i need i had all along
head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
Agreed, Manuel Moe.
Regarding your legacy, consider what you have accomplished here:
How many generations of people lived and died, never knowing that though they struggled with (what we call depression, anxiety et Al), they were not alone?
Through the miracle of the internet, you and Mr. Gilmartin provide a safe, clean space where we can meet. This forum has been as comforting as counseling (which is saying something) and much more comforting than family, religion, and community put together has been for me and my mental health.
Consider what you’ve done in this Internet forum. Such a legacy.
Edit to add:
We have enough “great” people: they get statues.
We need more people like you, “good” people. They’ll never make a statue of you, but they should. Perhaps the statue is in our hearts.
Regarding your legacy, consider what you have accomplished here:
How many generations of people lived and died, never knowing that though they struggled with (what we call depression, anxiety et Al), they were not alone?
Through the miracle of the internet, you and Mr. Gilmartin provide a safe, clean space where we can meet. This forum has been as comforting as counseling (which is saying something) and much more comforting than family, religion, and community put together has been for me and my mental health.
Consider what you’ve done in this Internet forum. Such a legacy.
Edit to add:
We have enough “great” people: they get statues.
We need more people like you, “good” people. They’ll never make a statue of you, but they should. Perhaps the statue is in our hearts.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
mini-brain-dump...
head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself, and work while thinking about sustainability
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Hello Oak,
you are making me blush <wayne and garth: i am not worthy>
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more brain-dump...
in my stupid head i catch myself imagining giving a pompous speech in front of dignitaries, so embarrassing to think, giving a speech as a result of me accomplishing something "great"
i read somewhere that imagining the end result reduces the likelihood of accomplishment, because you short circuit the motivation, you satisfy impulse with the purely imagined end result, so embarrassing how much i have indulged imagining the end result of accomplishing something great without taking even the tiniest concrete step forward
2022 is a good year to "head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself, and work while thinking about sustainability"
head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself, and work while thinking about sustainability
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Hello Oak,
you are making me blush <wayne and garth: i am not worthy>
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more brain-dump...
in my stupid head i catch myself imagining giving a pompous speech in front of dignitaries, so embarrassing to think, giving a speech as a result of me accomplishing something "great"
i read somewhere that imagining the end result reduces the likelihood of accomplishment, because you short circuit the motivation, you satisfy impulse with the purely imagined end result, so embarrassing how much i have indulged imagining the end result of accomplishing something great without taking even the tiniest concrete step forward
2022 is a good year to "head down, get to work, be compassionate to myself, and work while thinking about sustainability"
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- Beany Boo
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
I suspect your legacy is probably going to be you being "great" by just showing up spiritually for your friends and family, because that is rare.
If you’re available to show them love when they need it and also, available to receive love from them when they need to give it to you, well, you’ve won at life…
If you do something in the periods in between those moments; something that is viewed as ‘great work’, I’m sure there will be people who are admiring, respectful, envious etc.
If you’re available to show them love when they need it and also, available to receive love from them when they need to give it to you, well, you’ve won at life…
If you do something in the periods in between those moments; something that is viewed as ‘great work’, I’m sure there will be people who are admiring, respectful, envious etc.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
- manuel_moe_g
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Re: You guys are helping me big time!
trying to get better at stopping compulsive smartphone browsing and scrolling
trying to get better at celebrating myself when i successfully shift my attention away from smartphone browsing and scrolling
wish me luck, please
trying to get better at celebrating myself when i successfully shift my attention away from smartphone browsing and scrolling
wish me luck, please
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