Even-though ---> Nevertheless

[manuel_moe_g]

will explain later in greater detail

the format is [Challenge] -> [Even-though] specifics of experience of challenge -> [Nevertheless] powerful positive nourishing message of overcoming challenge -> [Spoken to inner part of me]

[*] Asperger's / Autism spectrum - accept teenage Manuel, sorry to you little buddy, not true that teenage Manuel is defective, teenage Manuel resenting the world for breaking rules and being unfair, he says "i <am> defective" (a mixed-up thought), he is terrified about being judged as defective around dating, say to him "you are <not> defective, you are just right the way you are", "<even-though> you feel different and you react differently, <nevertheless> you are socially capable, and you can achieve the relationships that you desire" said to teenage Manuel

[*] depression / low energy - "<even-though> you hear internally negative messages and feel like there is nothing in the gas tank, <nevertheless> you possess the eternal spark and when you move your momentum builds more and more" said to teenage Manuel

[*] anxiety - he has strength, he is not alone, "<even-though> you feel some peril in the future, <nevertheless> you have a track record of success and you will succeed and you have strength and you are not alone" said to teenage Manuel

[*] social anxiety - "<even-though> you fear rejection and harsh judgement, <nevertheless> you have a track record of close & nourishing relationships and this will continue, because you are loveable" said to teenage Manuel

will continue with this format with remaining list of challenges...

[*] difficulty with managing my focus

[*] difficulty with self-discipline and willpower

[*] didn't have good tools or good strategies modeled for me

[*] black and white thinking all or nothing thinking, thinking in pure absolutes, attracted to extremes instead of the golden middle

[*] Resentment building up to explosive anger

[*] Daydreaming, thinking instead of doing, planning instead of action

[*] Procrastination

[*] need more mindfulness

[*] need more grit

[oak]

Very good, Manuel Moe.

Keep us posted.

[manuel_moe_g]

continuing work on these "scripts" that are based on my enumerated challenges

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[*] Asperger's / Autism spectrum - accept teenage Manuel, sorry to you little buddy, not true that teenage Manuel is defective, teenage Manuel resenting the world for breaking rules and being unfair, he says "i <am> defective" (a mixed-up thought), he is terrified about being judged as defective around dating, say to him "you are <not> defective, you are just right the way you are", "<even-though> you feel different and you react differently, <nevertheless> you are socially capable, and you can achieve the relationships that you desire" said to teenage Manuel

[*] depression / low energy - "<even-though> you hear internally negative messages and feel like there is nothing in the gas tank, <nevertheless> you possess the eternal spark, you can take a formal rest and bounce back, and when you move your momentum builds more and more" said to teenage Manuel

[*] anxiety - he has strength, he is not alone, "<even-though> you feel some peril in the future, <nevertheless> you have a track record of success and you will succeed and you have strength and you are not alone" said to teenage Manuel

[*] social anxiety - "<even-though> you fear rejection and harsh judgement, <nevertheless> you have a track record of close & nourishing relationships and this will continue, because you are loveable" said to teenage Manuel

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[*] difficulty with managing my focus - "<even-though> my focus may drift away to mindless distraction and i may be distracted for a good amount of time, <nevertheless> i realize where i am, i can be self-compassionate, i can regroup, i am hardworking and capable, and i can do the next small but important part of my desired task right in that instant" said to teenage Manuel

[*] difficulty with self-discipline and willpower - "<even-though> i have a hard time having my actions match my deepest goals, having to balance my smartphone browsing and internet browsing with the work i wish to do, <nevertheless> this doesn't mean i am lazy, i can look at this compassionately, non-judgmentally, and not attack my core, it is just a habit that i am slowly walking away from, and i can change it to intentional browsing, time limited and towards a specific goal, where i first take a small step in my work, enjoying the action of that work and letting go of the expectation of the outcome, where the outcome is what it is, and then afterwards enjoy the browsing intentionally" said to teenage Manuel

[*] perseverance - "<even-though> i may have difficulty following through for something i don't necessarily enjoy everything about, specifically where there are difficulties that might introduce self-doubt, <nevertheless> i have a proven track record of never giving up even with very hard challenges, and i can identify the right tool to use and use that tool (one tool at a time), and if i set the challenge down for a bit (i can always pause), i can pick it up later when i regroup and complete it later" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] didn't have good tools or good strategies modeled for me

[*] black-and-white thinking, all-or-nothing thinking, thinking in pure absolutes, attracted to extremes instead of the golden middle - "<even-though> i have the habit of thinking in unrealistic absolutes, that can be quite harsh, <nevertheless> i can recognize this before i take it too far, and i can recommit to realistic and do-able thinking, and this is part of being a self-compassionate and loving thinker" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] Resentment building up to explosive anger

[*] Daydreaming, thinking instead of doing, planning instead of action - "<even-though> i have the habit of thinking instead of fruitful doing, <nevertheless> i can recognize this before i take it too far, and i can identify the right tool to use and use that tool (one tool at a time) to take an effective single step of fruitful action" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] Procrastination - "<even-though> you put things off that have the perceived risk of negative feelings or frustration, <nevertheless> you have the spark and the ability to dive into a small part of the important thing, not caring about the outcome, but enjoying the action itself" said to teenage Manuel

[*] need more mindfulness

[*] need more grit - "<even-though> sometimes i feel weak inside and i feel i cannot push forward (i don't have faith that i can push forward), <nevertheless> i have a track record of pushing forward through considerable difficulties, so there is demonstratively inner strength inside me that cannot be denied, and i can close my eyes and trust in that inner strength and get good results and push forward" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] irritability - "<even-though> there are times where i <feel> irritable and that interferes with my highest goals, <nevertheless> i can recognize this, i can slow things down and be gentle with my body, so my body can calm down and give me strength (or possibly surrender) so i can find some gratitude in the moment and i can feel hope and gain energy and move from a negative emotion to a positive emotion" said to teenage Manuel

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the theme is <nurturing>: you guys can a hugged and given the most happiest compliments paid to you, and it is all real and earned, and that cannot be denied, you guys are just right the way you are, and you are all loved

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these scripts are an opportunity for a "one a day" meditation


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[Beany Boo]

I like the degree to which you are savoring these. It’s like you are slowly but surely turning to see your true self. You may experience moments of resounding recognition. Life may always pose challenges (as it does for everyone) but those resonant moments will be worth your persistence. What they do for you may also be experienced by those witnessing it happening in you.

[manuel_moe_g]

did some editing, did some additions, where i am now...

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[*] Asperger's / Autism spectrum - accept teenage Manuel, sorry to you little buddy, not true that teenage Manuel is defective, teenage Manuel resenting the world for breaking rules and being unfair, he says "i <am> defective" (a mixed-up thought), he is terrified about being judged as defective around dating, say to him "you are <not> defective, you are just right the way you are", "<even-though> you feel different and you react differently in ways that have been painfully isolating, <nevertheless> you are socially capable, and you can achieve the relationships that you desire" said to teenage Manuel

[*] depression / low energy - "<even-though> you hear internally negative messages and feel like there is nothing in the gas tank, <nevertheless> you possess the eternal spark, you can take a formal rest to bounce back a bit later, and when you move your momentum builds more and more so you have permission to move slowly during the hardest times" said to teenage Manuel

[*] anxiety - he has strength, he is not alone, "<even-though> you feel some peril about the future, <nevertheless> you have a track record of success and you <will> succeed and you have strength and you are not alone" said to teenage Manuel

[*] social anxiety - "<even-though> you fear rejection and harsh judgement, <nevertheless> you have a track record of close & nourishing relationships and this will continue, because you are loveable" said to teenage Manuel

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[*] difficulty with managing my focus - "<even-though> my focus may drift away to mindless distraction and i may be distracted for a good amount of time, <nevertheless> i eventually always realize where i am, i can be self-compassionate, i can regroup, i am hardworking and capable, and i can do the next small but important part of my desired task right in that instant" said to teenage Manuel

[*] difficulty with self-discipline and willpower - "<even-though> i have a hard time having my actions match my deepest goals, having to balance my smartphone browsing and internet browsing with the work i wish to do, <nevertheless> this doesn't mean i am lazy, i can look at this compassionately, non-judgementally, and not attack my core, it is just a habit that i am slowly walking away from and replacing with something productive yet nourishing and mindful, and i can change it to intentional browsing, time limited and towards a specific goal or feeling or body state, where i first take a small step in my work towards my goal, <enjoying the action of that work> and <letting go of the expectation of the outcome>, where <the outcome is what it is>, and then afterwards enjoy the intention browsing as a little earned reward to enjoy" said to teenage Manuel - a lot of this taken from "Meditation for procrastination by Khan Academy" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoTimXPT8ec

[*] perseverance - "<even-though> i may have difficulty following through for something i don't necessarily enjoy everything about, specifically where there are difficulties that might introduce self-doubt, <nevertheless> i have a proven track record of never giving up even with very hard challenges, and i can identify the right tool to use and use that tool (one tool at a time), and if i set the challenge down for a bit (i can always pause), i can pick it up later when i regroup and complete it later" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] didn't have good tools or good strategies modeled for me - encouragement & support- "<even-though> I didn't have the advantage of encouragement, support, and good advice, <nevertheless> i can provide those things to myself now as a loving parent to myself and i have a track record of success because i give myself those things" said to teenage Manuel

[*] black-and-white thinking, all-or-nothing thinking, thinking in pure absolutes, attracted to extremes instead of the golden middle - "<even-though> i have the habit of thinking in unrealistic absolutes, that can be quite harsh, <nevertheless> i can recognize this before i take it too far, and i can recommit to realistic and do-able thinking, and this is part of being a self-compassionate and loving thinker" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] Resentment building up to explosive anger - "<even-though> i have had events in the past where i reacted with explosive anger that made me feel very terrible about myself, <nevertheless> i know that my reactions to those events do not say anything about my true self and i have objective evidence that i now slow things down to head off anger at the pass and i have good people to talk with regularly and that prevents resentments from building up" said to teenage Manuel

[*] Daydreaming, thinking instead of doing, planning instead of action - "<even-though> i have the habit of thinking instead of fruitful doing, <nevertheless> i can recognize this before i take it too far, and i can identify the right tool to use and use that tool (one tool at a time) to take an effective single step of fruitful action" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] Procrastination - "<even-though> you put things off that have the perceived risk of negative feelings or frustration, <nevertheless> you have the spark and the ability to dive into a small part of the important thing, not caring about the outcome, but enjoying the action itself" said to teenage Manuel

[*] need more mindfulness - intentionality - being in the moment before, during, and after [1] eating & [2] internet browsing and smartphone browsing - being non-judgemental - getting in touch with true enjoyment of what i am doing in the moment -

[*] break down mindfulness - food - snacking - {{it would be nice to have a snack}} - after work, before dinner snacking - slow things down and have intentionality - feelings are [1] hunger, [2] feeling anxious about the chores i have to do before dinner [3] the big fear is the fear of feeling bad [4] my body and my mind have learned i can feel better in the moment eating food that is not the best choice for me in the long term - be kind to myself - <prompt> what i can do is i can prepare before i leave work, prepare a banana, an apple, and two carrots in a bag and have them really close when i get home from work - smiling and feel <grateful> at the moment that i open the bag with the banana, apple, carrots - notice the crunch, notice the taste, notice the texture, <feel> it all in my body - this feels really exciting to try out and feels really do-able

[*] meditation - it still counts if i do something during chores - dishwashing {{ [1] earth - feeling in my body - bring awareness to where i am standing, feel feet on the ground, feel my hands, feeling the dish [2] air - bringing my focus on my breath - see what the breath naturally is like - moving towards rhythm [3] water - the mouth, if mouth of dry thinking of yummy food [4] fire - having gratitude that can do all this in this moment, being done for the family }}

[*] need more grit - "<even-though> sometimes i feel weak inside and i feel i cannot push forward (i don't have faith that i can push forward), <nevertheless> i have a track record of pushing forward through considerable difficulties, so there is demonstratively inner strength inside me that cannot be denied, and i can close my eyes and trust in that inner strength and get good results and push forward" said to the teenage Manuel

[*] irritability - "<even-though> there are times where i <feel> irritable and that interferes with my highest goals, <nevertheless> i can recognize this, i can slow things down and be gentle with my body, so my body can calm down and give me strength (or possibly surrender) so i can find some gratitude in the moment and i can feel hope and gain energy and move from a negative emotion to a positive emotion" said to teenage Manuel

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the theme is <nurturing>: you guys can a hugged and given the most happiest compliments paid to you, and it is all real and earned, and that cannot be denied, you guys are just right the way you are, and you are all loved

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these scripts are an opportunity for a "one a day" meditation