Mindfulness
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Re: Mindfulness
Good suggestion MF
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
Beany MD = "Mindfulness Devotee"
- Beany Boo
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Re: Mindfulness
It’s working
Thanks SD
Thanks SD
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
I’ve gotten the same message from different sources today.
Something will just get better without me doing anything except letting it
Not ‘everything will’, just some… thing.
I would ignore it except something is getting better without me doing anything.
I don’t know what it is; just reading the air.
Something will just get better without me doing anything except letting it
Not ‘everything will’, just some… thing.
I would ignore it except something is getting better without me doing anything.
I don’t know what it is; just reading the air.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
Oh I am wondering what it is! Do you feel like you’re in the flow of life beany? Where ya just coast along and allow what is, to be what is.
Re: Mindfulness
Word.
Work is love made visible. -Kahlil Gibran
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
A person with a "why" can endure any "how". -Viktor Frankl
Which is better: to be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort? -Skyrim
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Re: Mindfulness
Thank you Oak & MF
The validation has shifted something that is sort of in the direction of what you describe.
I wouldn’t go that far. I suspect though, that it’s someone has started listening to me where (for the previous decade) there had been only a vacuum.Mental Fairy wrote: ↑January 24th, 2023, 6:50 pm Do you feel like you’re in the flow of life beany? Where ya just coast along and allow what is, to be what is.
The validation has shifted something that is sort of in the direction of what you describe.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
I’ve noted something that infuriates me.
Sitting here in a medical office with Joes grandpa waiting to get eyes checked.
I can hear a conversation between a training worker and a member of staff teaching.
I’ve noted something recently that has infuriated me while others talk. Not sure if it’s a kiwi thing but when someone is in conversation with another and they say ‘yeah, yeah, yeah’ before the other has finished talking. Surly they can’t be listening to the other while they say ‘yeah, yeah, yeah…’
I noticed this with many people. I could be wrong but how can you really take in what someone is saying if the other is talking over the speaker?
The more I listen to this conversation (which I don’t think should be heard) the more I want to quiz the listener to see if that actually did listen to the other.
Sitting here in a medical office with Joes grandpa waiting to get eyes checked.
I can hear a conversation between a training worker and a member of staff teaching.
I’ve noted something recently that has infuriated me while others talk. Not sure if it’s a kiwi thing but when someone is in conversation with another and they say ‘yeah, yeah, yeah’ before the other has finished talking. Surly they can’t be listening to the other while they say ‘yeah, yeah, yeah…’
I noticed this with many people. I could be wrong but how can you really take in what someone is saying if the other is talking over the speaker?
The more I listen to this conversation (which I don’t think should be heard) the more I want to quiz the listener to see if that actually did listen to the other.
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Re: Mindfulness
Thank you MF
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
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Re: Mindfulness
Maybe the most important lesson I learned in therapy was modulation. In other words, being able to change gear/approach/position, at will.
Examples:
1. Once committed to a task, being able to start, then stop, rest, let go, start again from where you left off, change approach or direction and then continue until you stop again. As opposed to, once you start the only ‘choice’ is you must simply keep going relentlessly.
2. In a relationship, being able to move close, step back, wait, step away, come back, step forward, come close again; doing this repeatedly. As opposed to, once close, you’re stuck there, close for good; the only other option, having to abandon.
If I find I am not modulating; changing my mind freely, it’s a sure sign I am struggling psychologically.
Examples:
1. Once committed to a task, being able to start, then stop, rest, let go, start again from where you left off, change approach or direction and then continue until you stop again. As opposed to, once you start the only ‘choice’ is you must simply keep going relentlessly.
2. In a relationship, being able to move close, step back, wait, step away, come back, step forward, come close again; doing this repeatedly. As opposed to, once close, you’re stuck there, close for good; the only other option, having to abandon.
If I find I am not modulating; changing my mind freely, it’s a sure sign I am struggling psychologically.
Mr (blue) B. Boo
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi
‘Out of nowhere the mind comes forth.’ - Zen koan
‘Let go or be dragged.’ - Zen proverb
‘Knowing how to yield is strength.’ - Laozi